Best way to get to an appointment

[MonaLisaDoesntSmile]

I have a scan tomorrow. To walk to hospital would take me around 1,5 hours (we have chosen one that is not very local because of great care they provide). I don't really want to take a bus. All the scans so far have been normal and I am not in high risk group (additional scans were mainly because of the history of my first pregnancy. It's too late to cancel, but I am really anxious about going. We can't drive either (there is no parking facility and no off-street parking anywhere around, and my partner would have to stay with our elder one).

Taxi? Teleportation :)? Not going at all?

Drive to the nearest car park and walk from there.

You don't want to go, and you'll keep finding reasons to justify that.

Unless you take the car and park it in a nearby car park, the only other options you have is:

• your DH drops you off and you get a taxi home
• you get a taxi there and back
• you cancel the appointment and rearrange

@I0NA For labour my partner can drop me off and come back home, and pick me up whenever, which will hopefully be the next day or so, it will only take a few minutes each time and we can use the drop off lane to do it quickly.

Tomorrow he can't drive me at all. Pre-corona, taking a bus was an option and that's how I was getting to my appointments.

@Pentium85 I wish people just read the opening thread. I purposedly stated in my op we can't drive because of parking and DHs job and what would be another sensible options, 95% people piled in to say to drive regardless , not sure how that is looking for excuses, I explained why driving is not an option. If there is no blooming parking, are we meant to go and build one on the spot, or maybe block the a&e entrance and leave the car there?

Yes I am anxious about going out, hence the question.

Must add, until two weeks ago I was out to work every day and all was well, but since sitting at home the anxiety to leave got worse, so yeah, a cab or nothing it will be.

What does the hospital’s website say about parking?

@bythehairsonmychinichinchin There is the drop off bit, and a small (10 places) visitor car park somewhere in the back. Given it's a big hospital, no guarantee there will be any spaces at all. I can drive myself to the appointment, but if there are no spaces, the closest supermarket car park is too far away to make it on time and is a very long walk.

Omg OP you can drive

Right so your option isn't to work 1.5 hours it's to walk to the closest place you can (before the residential parking) and bloody walk from there

Oh, you can drive.
What a pointless thread.

If you told us the name of the hospital im sure some clever local mumsnetters would tell you the best street to park on. You could then drive to the street and walk the rest of the way.

Does the hospitals website not mention where the nearest public car parks are? When was your last midwife appointment?

If you’ve been measured lately and there’s no issues with your baby’s movements I’d rearrange the appointment, as it’s causing you too much anxiety.

I'd rather not drive as I am not a very confident driver and don't know the route well.
Anyways, NO DRIVING is happening, but people seem really obsessed with it for one reason or another.
@PleaseStopCrying I asked on local forums and waiting for some replies.
Anyways, thank you all for the input! Reminds me how helpful MM is helpful when anxiety hits!

NO DRIVING is happening, but people seem really obsessed with it for one reason or another.

It's because it is the obvious solution.

You are being ridiculous.

OP, it's because you're massively drip feeding information.

In your original post you should have said "I can drive, however I'm really not confident in the car by myself and the current situation is making my anxiety worse so I don't think it's the safest option"

@MonaLisaDoesntSmile people have tried to be helpful.

You don’t what to drive that is fine, and your DH can’t take you due to work commitments, you also don’t want to use public transport or take a taxi due to the infection risk, this is also fine.

The only option you have bearing all this in mind is to call them in the morning and reschedule.

Your options are drive, be driven, walk, take a taxi, take a bus.
None of these are agreeable to you. So you're fucked really unless a new form of transport is invented before tomorrow morning.

@bythehairsonmychinichinchin I don't think people are trying to be helpful- op said driving is not possible, people insist on driving. I know the hospital well, so know the parking situation which I also explained, and yet people still ask if there is really no parking, so then I have to explain that as well over and over again. Well, no, there is none, or none that I can count on being free.
Partner can't drive tomorrow, I am terrified of driving being being so far along along routes I don't know well. I don't know why I need to describe every single aspect of every possible outcome- I think simply saying that driving not possible for whatever reason should have covered it, clearly was not the case.
Sorry if I sound abrupt, and realise everyone is stressed, but also it would just be lovely to have a question answered without feeling I am in court and have to justify something I already know is not possible.

I thought cab was the lesser of two evils (public transport), but not ideal. There really is no ideal under the circumstances. Will see if they can reschedule given the short notice for a time I can at least be dropped off. Thanks again.

Your options are drive, be driven, walk, take a taxi, take a bus.
None of these are agreeable to you. So you're fucked really unless a new form of transport is invented before tomorrow morning.

This is a spit the tea out comment

We have been on lockdown over a week, so why are you only thinking about ways of getting to the hospital now? The night before the scan??? You've been given advice already OP, so I'm unsure what other answers you want?

• Take bus as usual
• Taxi
• Drive somewhere closer you are comfortable driving to and walk
• Walk the whole way

@Thatbloodybear You're hilarious, hope you consider a career in stand-up comedy in future if you're not in it already! Inspired by you I actually dusted off my broom to be able to fly.

@playthestation I never said no to a taxi, just wondered what other people do in a similar sitation when driving is not an option (hence the title what is the best way to get the appointment udner the circumstances- that could give you a bit of a hint), and I said a walk could be an option but would take 4 hours there and back altogether. Not sure thwt would be preferential reading how many people are still out and not keeping the elusive 2 m distance. Now you can go off and put other people down instead, hope doing that to me last night made your day better.

@Elouera It only dawned me the night before that I actually had to leave the house, shocking, I know. I think because it became so realistic, I think up until that point I thought it would be OK to just take a bus which I did for my last appointment two weeks ago.

Anyways they were really accomodating and I managed to reschedule.

curtain falls

I never said no to a taxi, just wondered what other people do in a similar sitation when driving is not an option
(hence the title what is the best way to get the appointment udner the circumstances- that could give you a bit of a hint)

I'm not sure why you have tagged me and said anything about taxis. I never suggested one in the first place.

and I said a walk could be an option but would take 4 hours there and back altogether.

But you later said you can drive so could it is not unreasonable to suggest you drive to somewhere nearer than you are.

Not sure thwt would be preferential reading how many people are still out and not keeping the elusive 2 m distance.

Really? You could make an effort to stay away from people if you want to. It's a walk from a residential street to a hospital not a trip round ASDA.

Now you can go off and put other people down instead, hope doing that to me last night made your day better.

I wasn't 'putting you down'. I didn't once say anything to put you down. I told you I think you are being ridiculous. I'm not the only one. You have posted asking a question and every single suggesting has not been acceptable. I don't know why you bothered.

not sure why everyone is so bemused at the thought of hospitals with little or no parking. Not unusual in inner cities. My hospital currently only really has parking for blue badge holders, although it's not usually an issue because public transport is excellent. Much tricker now of course...