Anyone else not liking being pregnant as much as everyone thinks they should?? Also tips for sleeping comfortably

[SamSamA]

Having a moan.
I guess everyone thinks that being pregnant is this amazing thing and it's a great time which it is....but just the end result rather than the pregnancy. Wish I could skip this part and just give birth. At least that's over quickly, well with my first it was.

Currently 14 weeks pregnant and I'm already so uncomfortable. I knew what was coming as I have a 4 year old but the uncomfortableness didn't kick in until I was about 6/7 months. This time around I've felt rubbish since I was 6 weeks gone. At least the nausea has stopped now but the bloating hasn't. I can't get comfortable when laying down at all. I have a pregnancy wedge thing under my belly, as it resembles someone who is 5 month gone not 3 1/2, and a pillow behind my back. I have ordered a better pregnancy pillow that's meant to be coming on Tuesday but dunno when it will actually come. I wake up 10 times in the night as I can't just turn in my sleep, for some reason I have to wake up to do it. And then I can't go back to sleep straight away, that would be too easy. Plus once I'm awake I need to use the bathroom. Every night I finally fall asleep around 4/5am then get woken up at 8 (if I'm lucky) by my son. Before I could take an hour nap during the day if needed but as there's no school now and my partners still at work there's no chance of a nap. In fact there's no chance to really have a break as my son constantly needs to be entertained.
I just need at least 3 nights a week of proper sleep.....I'm not asking for much.
Other than pillows what else can I do? Or what has helped others?
TIA

I'm 31 weeks' and all of my birthing plans have now gone out of the window so I'm feeling pretty rubbish! And not sure if OH will be allowed to be there for the birth of his first and last baby

Yup. I hated being pregnant. I felt sick 24/7 with both pregnancies. Good luck op.

I can relate to you, I’m only 9 weeks and absolutely hate every minute of this!

I feel constantly sick (and hungry) feel like I have to eat to stop myself feeling sick/being sick!

All I really want to do is lie in bed and I feel really sorry for myself, feel so down and depressed about it all!

Like you I just want the end result, I’m struggling and feel like I’ve got no support whatsoever (from midwives, mental health etc) my partner is lovely but I don’t even want to talk to him about things at the moment, I’m in denial.

Also hate the smell of myself (really weird I know) but can’t stand it!!

I’ve got a big “U” shaped pillow that helps me get comfy in bed.
I agree with you about not enjoying pregnancy, I really want this baby but HATE being pregnant with the nausea, lack of sleep, discomfort, exhaustion and (for me) fainting at the drop of a hat.
It’ll be worth it to have a baby at the end but I am definitely not enjoying the process of getting there!

Same here, I’m 13 weeks and have started having similar issues with sleep. I’ve gone from about 7 weeks of getting to sleep early and being out the whole night to still feeling knackered and now can’t seem to get comfortable.

My pregnancy pillow arrived 2 days ago and it has somewhat helped, still waking up every now and then in the night.

i got a pregnancy support belt from amazon which helped with some of the joint pain, it wasn't too expensive so worth looking into in addition to your new pillow.

just to validate / add to your venting... being pregnant sucks. i am very pleased for any ladies who have a more positive experience but for me there are a million things i hate about being pregnant [morning sickness till 22 weeks, exhausted, pelvic pain, hip pain, need to wee 1000 times a day, can't bend over cause of bump, nipples hurt, gums have just started bleeding, heartburn & reflux, did i mention the morning sickness? i hate it so much it goes on the list twice, can't sleep due to the aforementioned weeing and hip pain... etc etc.] and only two things i like:

1. DH has to deal with the cat litter
2. when you start to feel baby movements it's pretty darned exciting

your body is doing something mind-bendingly incredible [you're creating a whole new human! what!] but it's definiely being put under a lot of stress while doing it so it is totally 100% valid to not like being pregnant!

lots of people say second trimester is best trimester so fingers crossed that you start to feel better soon! x

I've hated the last six months, I'm still throwing up everything, two consultants missed I had hypothyroidism, my stress levels have been through the roof because of it. I'm on my fourth midwife, the care I'd had has been patchy at best, several relatives dying/diagnosed terminal, his Mother, I've got spd, the now the virus.

I just want it to all be over. I miss eating, fed up of threats to hospitalise me, fed up of pain, miss sleeping. Oh and we're half way through a renovation that we can't complete due to the lock down.

I found it far more comfortable sleeping on a much softer surface than usual when pregnant with DS. Do you have a spare bed that's softer or could you get a mattress topper?

I also have horrible pain when sleeping/rolling over/standing up from sitting etc. Try putting a pillow between your knees in bed so that your top leg isn't pulling your hip down at a funny angle while you sleep. A pillow between your knees helps keep your hips in line with your spine, rather than twisting. Speak to your midwife about pelvic girdle pain (SPD). I was supposed to get a referral for physio, but due to corona they aren't doing this atm, but did send a leaflet with recommended exercises to help strengthen the joints.

Hope things get better for you