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Pregnancy hormones or am I right to be concerned?

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Littlebb2020 · 28/03/2020 22:24

Might be a little long so apologise in advance.

Me and my oh had ivf in January because of male factor issues. We luckily got pregnant on our first go and we are unbelievably happy. My oh has always been a drinker but he really cut down the last two years because of being told by our doctor that it may have contributed to his sperm count being low.
We both quit smoking too but he smoked a vape.
Before the ivf he totally cut out any alcohol and did really well with his diet.
But now it seems I’m pregnant he thinks he can go back to drinking whenever. I feel like I’m nagging, I mean he works 2 jobs, does every job that needs doing round the house when he’s got
Time. Has looked after me while I’ve been sick and tired. He’s a really lovely Person and going to be a great dad, it’s just his drinking that I can’t stand. He drinks about 4 cans every few days but during quarantine he’s been drinking nearly every night. Because of morning sickness I can’t bare the smell so he sleeps on the sofa, his diet has gone out the window and he’s back to eating absolute rubbish food. He smells awful to me and I know it’s because of the pregnancy hormones but I can’t help but worry I’ll feel like this through the whole pregnancy and it’ll grate on me. I’m also worried he’ll carry on with his drinking when the baby is here.

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2020firsttimemum · 28/03/2020 22:41

I would be concerned to op. Have you spoken to him about it and how it's making you feel?

It's not just that, but also his health. We don't know how long this could go on for so drinking every night is not good for him and might get him into a habit he will struggle to get out of. That obviously then poses problems when baby is here.

Have you tried speaking to him? It might be that he's bored of being stuck indoors (I don't blame him, I am too but also pregnant so tough I guess 😂) and he needs some other way to entertain himself.

Good luck!

Littlebb2020 · 28/03/2020 22:47

@2020firsttimemum I have spoken to him about it he says he doesn’t think he drinks as much as I say he does 🙄 he also said it’s because he is on a sort of break from working, tbh when he’s working both jobs he doesn’t drink till a Friday night then has a few cans so it might be boredom right now. I’m just worrying it’ll become a problem and I don’t want it to be one😞. I always thought his drinking before stemmed from
The depression he had thinking we will never have any children and don’t get me wrong it was a lot worse before. I am worried about his health too, he has the worst diet I’ve ever known someone have. I tell him to eat better but again doesn’t listen.

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2020firsttimemum · 29/03/2020 09:45

How frustrating for you!
Will he not reduce it given the fact that you can't join in and have a social drink together?

Maybe try and suggest doing something in the evenings together (I know it's hard right now) to distract him from it. Maybe cooking together, or looking at baby things online, or even just getting out for the walk in an evening.

I'm not sure what else to suggest op, I'm sorry :(

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