Having scan done alone

[Leahmorob]

Hey guys

I'm absolutely devastated my husband won't be able to come our 12 week scan as the hospital are saying you have to go alone.

Can't stop crying and devastated for him too, has anyone else had this?

Any advice on how to stay positive would be amazing 😩

I don't understand people saying its just a scan..yes maybe...but they mean alot and i always think its a way for the partner to feel like its real to them too. Lucky my hubby could come to my 12 and 20 but im still upset he cant come to my 28 next week and probably 32 week if its ongoing (growth scans)

I just had my 12 week and my DH couldn’t come, I was quite worried about receiving bad news alone but once I saw everything was ok it was ok not having him there. It’s hard and not what you had planned but just think hopefully if they can be strict with measures now it’ll mean things won’t have to be as strict in 6 months time when we are giving birth 🙏

I had a scan this week and had to go solo it was fine and the sonographer was lovely about it all, try not to worry :)

I had most of my scans this pregnancy alone, apart from two private ones which we did for my husband to see baby.

Sometimes even without corona virus, people can't make arrangements to have everyone they want at their scans anyways.

I'm having my last scan on Tuesday and I was going to go by myself anyways without having the restrictions.

You can do it, don't worry!

I'm guessing that all the posters who say it's 'just a scan' at never received bad news at a scan before then? If you had, I really don't think you would say it's just a scan.

@bananamuffin99 I didn't say it's just a scan personally, but I assume PP's telling OP if she is already worked up about having the scan alone, that if she were to receive bad news it would be awful isn't really a great idea.

God, if your this upset about the scan how are you gonna cope if he's only allowed with you in the delivery room.

It's the same here and Tbh I think it'll make for a better atmosphere in the wards. Too many men are in what should be womens only communal spaces.

Scans really aren't that exciting, you can still take him a photo. As someone who had bad news in a scan, I can understand it will be hard for some to be alone, but alot of midwives really are very kind and supportive. We all need to woman up and remember that we can do it alone - lots of women have and do.

Mine couldn't come as he was working away at the time. We tried for 4+ years to get pregnant and yeah it was shit but you have to crack on and deal with it. You can take home a picture and still make it special.

Good luck for your scan OP

Understand how gutting it is as I had the same letter a few days ago, I have booked a private scan at 10 weeks though and my husband can be their. Maybe look at a private place?

With a bit of luck he can be there with you at a later scan and the radiologist will look after you - they know how stressful it is x

Sonographer even 😄

Not sure if anyone else has said this already but if I were you I'd go for a private scan first as they're not too expensive and you'd be able to take your husband with you I think.

Hi there.

I totally get where you're coming from. When I had both my scans I was really nervous and my partner did help with that. It was also a special time, and I wanted to share that with him as much as possible. It's their baby too at the end of the day. It's ok to be upset with the changes. It's not how we would like things to go and it does suck. That being said it's for a really good reason. So try keep that in mind.

Today I was rushed into hospital at 23 weeks with suspected early labour. I had to attend alone without my partner- he was not allowed in with me. He sat in the car for four hours while I was being assessed. Thankfully it was a UTI and I have the medication now to help. But when I was going in, the thought of being alone was worse than actually being alone in there if that makes sense? Because you're truly not alone. The midwifes, maternity assistants and doctors are bloody brilliant and they're always around. It wasn't actually as bad as I thought it would be, if anything it was a calmer atmosphere without loads of people about. If it's any consolation, the 12 week scan is literally in, scan, out, bloods and it's over. It's very quick so if your partner waits in the car it won't be long until you see him again with photos. ❤️