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COVID19 Redundancies made before I told them I am pregnant... general 5 week pregnancy worries

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janepar1 · 25/03/2020 16:34

Hello all,

Just looking for some advice i guess. This is my first pregnancy and I was not trying for a baby, I am 26 and I live at home with my mum and my boyfriend. However, my boyfriend is really happy about it and I have always wanted to be a mum, so we figure it is a blessing and we love the baby already. I found out 4 days ago and I am around 5 weeks.
Firstly, my boyfriend is self employed electrician and already has no work or income due COVID-19. I earn a decent wage and am currently working from home and I think I can save myself around 1000 a month so we can move out ASAP, hopefully he will start work again in a few weeks / be entitled to some benefit so any additional we will save too. But I am worried enough that I havnt even told my mum, who I am close to, because I dont want her judgement or worries in the current uncertainty. My boyfriend told his mum and she told me to get an abortion, which hurt.
Secondly I have just had a call from my boss and they are having to make 60% of staff redundant. He told me I am safe which I am incredibly happy about. I have a feeling it could have an impact on my wage.. but I dont know as of yet. Anyway, they are fair and would never take advantage of me. I am the only person in my company who does my role. I just feel terribly guilty that I am pregnant and know I will have to go on maternity leave in 7/8 months. The thought of telling them terrifies me. However, I will go back quite soon as I earn more than my O/H and if work need me I guess they need me. I dont know, should I feel guilty?
I am worried as I really want this baby now and I am terrified of everything and upsetting everyone with the news, and it is ruining it for me. I hate COVID-19!!!

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Teacaketotty · 25/03/2020 16:49

Firstly congratulations!

Second, keep your news to yourself for now - you don’t need to tell your employer for a while and normally I wouldn’t until 3-4 months anyways. Talk to your mum though, she will want to support you I’m sure - moving out may not be wise since only one of you is working atm.

Third, don’t feel bad - I was made redundant on maternity leave. Life happens they will have to deal with it just like you would have to deal with it if you were made redundant. They can’t discriminate you for being pregnant. Continue to do a good job and relax - life is stressful enough at the moment. Once the baby comes what your work needs will be at the bottom of your list believe me.

janepar1 · 26/03/2020 11:36

Thank you for your message!

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