Not sure how I'm going to manage.

[holypoop]

So I had been seeing/sleeping with a guy on and off since September last year. I was taking oral contraceptives but I fell pregnant by accident and currently around 6wks.
I told the guy that I've decided to keep it as I know I'd always regret a termination and he went mental saying I'm ruining his life, I'm the most selfish person he's ever meet and that I've done it on purpose to trap him. He said he wants nothing to do with it period a I haven't heard anything from him and don't want to message him and annoy him any further.
Now I'm in total bits looking at my phone willing him to message me but knowing deep down he's not. I'm worrying that I'm not going to manage as a single parent, I really don't know how to handle this I just want to cry.
Has anyone else gone through this? Has the guy come round to the situation? Have you managed as a single parent?

Not me personally but my friend. The guy wanted nothing to do with her or the pregnancy /baby. He met his son soon after he was born then disappeared for 4 years despite my friend offering him the chance to be part of their sons life many times. My friend is an amazing mum and her son is a lovely boy. The dad started contact with them after 4ish years and he sees his son every few months. Kid will be 12 this year.
It's not going to be easy to be a single parent but you can still be an amazing mum.

I haven't been in this situation but I just wanted to say sorry that he is treating you this way, he sounds like a giant arsehole. It takes two people to make a baby and by the sounds of it, he wasn't wearing a condom. Whether or not he wants anything to do with the baby is up to him, though it's well within your rights for him to still be financially responsible.

Thanks for the replies, I suppose all I can do now is look forward and think of myself and bean I'm growing.

@holypoop my friend found herself in a very similar situation back when she was 19, she did it all on her own and hasn’t looked back, I wish you luck

@holypoop I’m in the same boat. I was told I had very low fertility and that the chance of me ever having a child was slim. And was in the pill. So when I found out I was pregnant, I didn’t believe it for weeks.
The dad, doesn’t want anything to do with it, and said he hopes history repeats itself (I’ve had recurrent miscarriages). I’m set in this, I’m doing it alone. I’m sure there will be moments where I will cry, staying at home is tough (as I’m alone and pregnant), there is going to be moments I wish someone is there, but it is what it is. You can do this, and so can I.

@DressingGown87 sounds like he as big as an a$$hole as the one I'm dealing with. I'm also home alone with the staying in policy which totally isn't helping as I'm having too much time to think about him and my situation.
I've not told any of my friends yet so can't even speak to them. I've booked a private scan for Sunday and told him I've got one booked for this week but not told him the date, he's not messaged back and tbh I really don't know whether to let him know anything after the appt. 🤷🏼‍♀️
I was hoping a bit of time he'd come round and actually speak to me face to face though I don't think that'll ever happen.

How far gone are you? X

@holypoop I’m 9+4 (approx) is still in the early stages. I’ve had 3 scans so far, and done them alone, and my hospital appointments. I’ve give up communicating with him, as I think there is no point. He knows I’m pregnant, he can contact me if he wants. I’m focusing on me and the baby, and suggest you try and do the same. I agree through being home alone during this period, makes you overthink and even more anxious, just try distract yourself. I’ve done gardening, cleaning, sorting, baking, a WordSearch 😂, YouTube workouts.

I’ve told quite a few friends, (more than I would in normal circumstances or if I was in a relationship) and it’s helped. I made this decision because of a few factors; current epidemic, I’m high risk, I’m home alone, I need to talk to people and because they know my history. Is there someone you could tell? So you have someone to talk to?

@DressingGown87 tomorrow is a new day, currently I've just sat at home on the sofa feeling sorry for myself and stressing out.
I'm on leave from work to use my excess leave up though everyone has been told to work from home now (work don't know I'm pregnant).
I usually do loads of phys but not done any since it's kicked off but aiming to get myself up early and go for a run with my furbaby who will be happy to be back running with me. I've dropped weight to 47kg with all the stress, can't even talk a full dose of paracetamol now 😂.
My wooden blinds need cleaning which I've been putting off for a long time but I think now is the time to crack that one 😂
A close friend is coming over for dinner tomorrow but don't think I'll mention anything yet to her.
I'm gonna take a leaf out of your book and stop feeling sorry for myself and get a grip of my life lol. X