12 week scan no partners allowed

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I’ve just been for my booking appointment this morning and apparently I was the last one they were doing face to face, all others after me were going to be telephone. I was also informed that my husband will not be able to come to the 12 week scan. I totally understand why but it is so sad and he is gutted as would have been really nice for him to feel a bit more involved. I guess we are all going to be in this situation going forward? I was thinking about the 20 week scan and how I wouldn’t want to find out the sex on my own, maybe they would write it down and put it in a sealed envelope so we could open together at home? Just got to take one day at a time I suppose.

My DH wasn’t at my 20 week scan last year because we lived back then on different continents. I facetimed with him during the scan and midwife said: it’s a ...and then typed boy on the screen that showed the scan of our baby so we both saw the message at the same time.

It's unfortunate OP. I've just had my booked 4D scan cancelled so we won't get that opportunity again now. I totally understand why and agree it's not essential so shouldn't go ahead but we're still disappointed.

With regards to telling you the sex of your baby, they won't write it down, they only tell you verbally as, even at 20 weeks, they can't be 100% sure of the sex. Every time I've gone for an NHS scan it's on a notice on the wall that they will not put the sex in writing.

Am sort of in the same boat, I have a scan this Friday and I usually would have took my partner and 2 yr old but am unsure if I would be able to bring my child, if its only one person allowed in then I would have to go on my own cause I cant leave my child with anyone, my partner would have to look after her, and I don't want to go my own cause its for my down syndrome screening

@Loz123456 I don't know if health trusts are different but where I am, no kids are allowed to attend scans (not just during the corona outbreak).

Where I am partners are still allowed in, but no kids. I'd question how they can do a booking in appointment over the phone though- do they expect you to take your own blood?

I had my 20 week scan a few weeks back. Thankfully my partner was allowed there. Baby was in an awkward position so she couldn't see the skin on lower back. I've got a re-scan this Friday for that but partner isn't allowed in this time.

Face time or video the screen

@Honeybee85 thanks for your message, something like that may be a plan! I appreciate that they won’t write it down in normal circumstances but you would hope that given partners aren’t allowed that may change. Apparently this new rule has only been introduced in our area from today.

@LittleBoyJuly2020 are you just going to find out on your own or will you try and FaceTime him?

Camouflage, I had a scan last week and my child was allowed in then, am just not sure this time with this coronavirus going around, am just gonna have to ring them and see what they say

Children are more likely to spread the virus than adults so please do not take any children to the hospital at all unless they need to be treated.

Lots of hospitals including the one I work in, have changed their guidance from this weekend about visitors. Many are not allowing any visitors whatsoever and this includes maternity so check the website before you go. I highly doubt you would be allowed to bring a child with you.

@Loz123456 must be different rules for different trusts x

I’ve known a couple they wrote it down for and put it in an envelope

the 20 week scan is looking for serious malformations. Really the sex of the child is the least important thing. why not just have a surprise at the end of it all?

I think that they should stop and refuse to look at or disclose the sex at the 20 week scan. Too many people don't understand that it is an anomoly scan and that it is done at 20 weeks to see if the baby is even viable or healthy. The sex is not important at all. Many, many people get really bad news at these scans. Please don't see it as some fun game.

Face time or video the screen

I’m sorry but we’re talking about a medical examination here, you shouldn’t be using a mobile phone in the scan room

My personal feeling is children should not be allowed into the scan room anyway because things can, and sometimes are, very upsetting. I speak from experience.

In my current Trust children have never been permitted.

Ultimately a medical scan is not to see a picture of the baby but to check it is healthy and/or look for problems.

I am 30 weeks' pregnant with my third and have never even considered taking a child or children into the room for my scan.

The two bad news scans I have had were devastating enough for me as an adult, you never really forget them. So why risk subjecting a child to that sort of trauma?