Do we qualify as 'vulnerable' for special supermarket shopping times?

[MonaLisaDoesntSmile]

Not sure where it should have gone, Covid sub forum? But maybe someone here knows. There are no slots for either delivery nor click and collect for any of the supermarkets/amazon/anything else that delivers for the next month. I am 33 weeks, with a 3 year old toddler. We're not going out at all unless to the garden or park when it's absolutely empty. I know some supermarkets have slots for the elderly, NHS and 'vulnerable' and I wondered if we make the cut? Obviously if not will try to sort out shopping another time, which is rush hour any hour now, but thought I'd check if there is something out there that could make it easier especially as I have to take my toddler with me.

@NishaaS123
Because her replies were arsey when she didn't like what she was being told

Totally agree itwas, I've just returned from my local Co-op (A very small one) & got everything I needed apart from my favourite crisps.

Everyone rushing to the 'big' supermarkets first thing in the morning is crazy.

Op - check your local community schemes - most areas have set up a shopping service for the self isolated, elderly, key workers, anyone who needs help etc.

@n00bMaster69 No worries, we don't play around, but she needs to run a bit to let of some steam and the walkways are empty in the mornings.

@MonaLisaDoesntSmile
Then you should probably say the reasons why you believe you are part of the group and why you're presumably fit and well and present partner can't help. It's all in the detail

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted Do i even know you for you to make such comments? I don't think I need to list all my family or personal circumstances to find out if pregnant women are a part of the group or not, please don't dictate what I need to include in my posts. You came here and clearly have nothing relevant to say, so let's just end our convo here. Have a nice day.

To everyone else, thank you for taking time to reply!

Maybe just ask the supermarket. I suspect you may not be so bloody rude to people in real life.

@playthestation I tweeted a few but they are so overwhelmed with questions that got no response.
I'm fine with not being included, just wanted to see if it could make shopping easier (although that may not be the case regardless).

@playthestation You also look like a charmer yourself.
The question was pretty straight forward, do you think that it gives people right to enquire about details that are not really relevant?

I'd be arsey if almost every post demanded to know about a partner.

Some of us are widowed, some are alone. I don't think anyone should make snarky comments that make assumptions about another woman's situation

If he can't manage the shops maybe he could manage the toddler?

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted

under your logic she should turn up to the supermarket and explain all her special circumstances to be allowed to use the vulnerable person time slot. Maybe she should wear a sandwich board with all the details of her personal life too?

No OP we're not included unfortunately. Not much advice either but I do think/hope the shopping situation will get better soon.

@IndecentFeminist maybe he works away or was a psychotic abuser and I don't want to do anythign with him?

Neither is true, but it's irrelevant really.

@pollysproggle Thank you, I suspected this much, but thought it may be worth to doublecheck...

She's explained about her partner not that she should have to !! Pregnant woman are included in the vulnerable hour I went the other morning . And my partner didn't go as he has to work .

Yes, notbsure about all supermarkets but Asda confirm pregnant women are included in the vulnerable group

I have no idea what the OP's situation is (and nor is it any of my business) but I actually am pregnant with a sperm donor baby so how about I ask the same question, and everyone can take it as a given that I don't have a partner in the wings waiting to go buy my groceries for me.

For those who are questioning why anyone might think that pregnancy could possibly constitute 'vulnerability' in this context, I would add a reminder that pregnancy is literally on the same government list of people who need to practice really, really strict social distancing as being over 70 is, so I don't think it's a particularly startling or unreasonable question.

Wow! What an unpleasant thread!

It was a question I had been asking as well but I would never have used that slot because I don’t look pregnant and am more than able to shop at the normal times. I’ve been going to my small Tesco mega early though because I’m awake anyway and they put out fresh bread rolls.

You also look like a charmer yourself.

I think there is a point where you need to realise your rudeness is unnecessary. It was a few posts ago...

@NishaaS123 I literally asked this question myself on a previous post!!

The negativity and sarcasm that comes from a lot of Mumsnet posters REALLY infuriates and disheartens me!

WHY do women have to be so disparaging of other women who think and feel differently to them?!

I literally had one poster call my husband “impaired” and a “div” when I posted straight after the isolation recommendation a week ago asking whether it was ok for him to travel to see his mum for Mother’s Day!

I personally don’t think your comments were OP, HOWEVER I would certainly be a lot less polite than you are being in response to some of these comments!

I personally went for a lovely walk in the park today with my husband at 23 weeks and my friend has gone to a safari park where you don’t get out of your car or come into any contact with people! If I was in these 4 walls 24/7 I would kill someone - likely my DH!

The only thing I can recommend OP are little local shops or Asian shops often are better stocked!

However please remember that YOUR MUST NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOUSE EVER EVER OR YOU ARE A TERRIBLE WOMAN, MOTHER AND CHRISTIAN your husband MUST DO THE SHOPPING OR ELSE !

😘 xx

@playthestation Likewise. Politneness and respect goes both ways, practise what you're preaching.

@Persipan That's why I was asking. I don't feel entitled to the early slot, but having experienced what 'normal' shopping hours look like around here, I thought that maybe there is a way to avoid the crowds (although if early mornings are more crowded, maybe that's not a great idea either).

@csmw - Thank you! I looked at other supermarkets' websites but not Asda, but didn't find much.

@csmw- Thank you :)

@Persipan HOLLA 🙌 🙌

Why are you being so rude to me? I asked where the father was, and suggested a quieter timer to shop if he wasn't able to go. I tried to be helpful but it doesn't suit with your demand. You have got progressively worse going on. Just stop it. Seriously. No offence was intended, it is just how conversation goes. Do you shoot down people irl for daring to go off script?

@MrsRose2018 The wrath of Mumsnet is gonna reach you because of that walk! :)

I have been trying the smaller shops as well, but some products like rice and pasta are gone from everywhere, many don't stock particular items we need like dairy or gluten free products as they are a bit niche, so we rely on those for the bigger chains.

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Admittedly if some of my posts were abrupt, it's because I am tired of people applying their own circumstances to that of others. I am also tired of people assuming they are also the first ones who came up with 'where is your partner'. I would aks for relationship advice in a relevant section if I felt the need to do it.

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Thank you to those who were keen on giving the info that was asked for, over and out.

Wow what a horrible thread. So rude to ask about the baby’s father like that. Imagine in real life you’d never ask it like that so abruptly.

@MonaLisaDoesntSmile hope you get what you need for you and your family - it’s a difficult time for all and we should all show understanding of each other x

I'm not sure it's beneficial to you to shop at the same time as NHS staff. These are the people mist likely to come into contact with the virus. I don't understand why supermarkets aren't alternating the days between NHS staff and elderly/vulnerable people.

I really don't see what's wrong with people asking why your partner isn't doing the shopping, especially as in previous threads who've stated your toddler has quite bad health problems at the minute, people have prob AS and are wondering why he'd and you would risk the toddler being dragged to the shops.