Sitting Ducks thanks to COVID-19

[crazybutkind]

I need to vent/talk to somebody, anybody that will listen.

I'm 27 weeks pregnant and I have had multiple miscarriages and I am a wreck.

I am suffering with SPD, my anxiety is through the roof, I have a 2 year old and I am just sat in tears daily.

I last saw my midwife at 20 weeks, since then all appointments have been cancelled. My daughters nursery is now closed.

I am trying so hard to remain calm, stay healthy, entertain my toddler while self isolating because I have developed a cough and cold symptoms and grow another human.

I can't move a great deal because of SPD I find myself snapping at my toddler. Nobody can help because we are isolating and everybody in my family is in the care industry so they are hard at work.

I am sinking. I feel like we are all just sitting ducks waiting for something to happen. What happens when have baby and all this is going on? Will it be safe to go to hospital? Who is monitoring baby right now?? Me and my home doppler and kick counting? Reading google for someone to give me reassurance?

I am losing it. I need a break. Stop the world I want to get off. I dread everyday now and don't want to get out of bed. I don't want to parent, I don't want to touch anything, I'm frightened of coughing near her.

I have tried reaching out to friends and family and they all keep saying "just stay safe" my mental health isn't safe right now!

I have nobody to talk to so I am just sat crying.

Rock bottom

Sending love. It sounds really hard for you. Do you have a DP who can help? This whole situation is so tough, especially when you're pregnant. Can you do some self care? A bath? A face mask? Something entirely different. You're not alone in this and it's an incredibly hard time x

Have you actually been told that your pregnancy appointments have been cancelled because that would be very unusual and the trusts around me are still continuing with them as normal but with extra precautions. I advise you to call your community midwife team and ask.

Hi, I know how you feel. I’m 26 weeks pregnant suffering with SPD too and it’s all the questions and unknowns that are stressing me out. I know it’s hard but I’ve found the best way is to just take each day as it comes. I can’t think too far beyond that or I start to spiral.
It must be so hard for you at home with your little one I can only imagine. It’s it worth perhaps coming up with some activities she can do that you can join in with her doing, like puzzles or something like that which will take your mind off things? And then when she’s having a nap use that as time for you to try and relax, having a bath lighting some candles and maybe listening to something relaxing? Or whatever you find joy in doing?
Have you heard of the positive birth company? They do a digital hypnobirthing course which you may find helpful to give you something to work through and help calm your worries.

As it stands I believe you are still meant to ring triage if you have concerns about baby’s movements. You just need to tell them if you a self isolating due to having symptoms like a cough etc.

I think a lot of non-pregnant people (but not all) don’t really understand how stressful this situation is for us pregnant ladies, especially those due in the next 12 weeks. My friends don’t really get it either so you’re not alone there.

Take it one day at a time, it’s an ever involving situation so all you can do is focus on you and your little ones and try and shut out the rest of the noise. ❤️

Money is incredibly tight at the moment so while my DP still has a job to go to he needs to go and he is currently working 7am-7pm. She doesn't have a nap anymore so there's no "me time" I have tried absolutely everything. Painting, puzzles, making a car wash outside,bathing her dollies,small world play. She does engage but for a matter of minutes then she is bored. I am just getting down about my feelings of anxiety, sadness, worry all being dismissed. Family and friends think I am over reacting. I spoke to the maternity unit this morning and she said by the sound of me, because I'm full of a cold, she is going to cancel my next appointment and rearrange. They did this a fortnight ago and I had to ring them to find out when I will be seeing someone as I have heard nothing. She didn't reassure me at all.

I'm just sinking

Can you plonk your little girl infront of cbeebies for an hour? Have some time to yourself. This isn't forever, just imagine holding your new baby in a couple of months time

No advice, but being pregnant right now must be a really scary experience

Forget restrictions on screen time. Put the TV on and lie on the couch. Baby is safest inside, so try to keep the little begger in as long as possible and hard as i is, you need to relax as much as possible.
I used lock up the house from inside, put anything reachable away and put a kiddie movie on and a drink and snack on the coffee table and sleep, I couldn't keep my eyes open, but used to wake as the film ended each time.

Forgot to say I'm 29 weeks pregnant, SPD and have an almost 4 year old DD to entertain too. It's not easy at all