35 weeks - PGP is off the scale, I really don’t know what to do

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Sorry, this post is written from a very distressed, hormonal, exhausted person so is probably a bit hysterical.
35 weeks, I have a 2.5 year old. I’ve been in a lot of pain since 15 weeks with my back - lower, right sacroliac (sp) joint. It’s got worse and worse, last week it’s taken a real turn for the worse and today just ridiculous. I cant walk from the sofa to the bathroom. I just got out of bed and cant walk from bed to the door. I’m panicking. I have absolutely no access to anyone - of course, don’t need to explain why that is. If things were normal I’d probably be at the hosp and seeing what can be done re early birth. I dont think I’ll be able to give birth in this state. I wouldnt be able to walk from the car park to the labour ward - contractions or not.
Every single person on these boards are stressed. My mental health is like it’s never ever been before, I am struggling to cope with the obvious worries. The addition of my physical health being like this is pushing me over the edge.
I dont think for a minute anyone can help me. I just need to rant and stop crying to my husband (who is here with me, one tiny positive out of this whole Corona mess).

Oh, you poor thing. I'm so sorry, that sounds rubbish.

For tonight, just focus on really good self-care - anything you can do that makes you feel a little better, or more centered, is a good thing. What has helped you in the past, when you've felt overwhelmed?

In the morning, can you call your midwife and explain how bad things have got?

Thank you. I had a cry to my husband - actually about the news, and not the pain, and I feel better. Bed is good place to be pain wise so I’m ok for now.
I only met my midwife for the first time last week, it’s a really long story but essentially i went to see a midwife at 20 weeks to say I was worried I couldnt walk so early on and she told me basically to go away. About 8 weeks later I realised just how much she’d messed up there and self referred for physio, they told me i should have been referred at 20 weeks, so I made a complaint and here I am with new (lovely, senior) midwife. First appointment with physio was this week and was of course cancelled.
So really, i know theres nothing anyone can do. I cant see anyone to help the problem because I’m not allowed... i can’t take painkillers because there are none available.... i was paying privately to see an osteopath but im not allowed anymore. I’m thinking tomorrow can my husband track me down some crutches maybe.
Honestly, the state of the entire world right now i dont even know why i am mentioning such a problem. Its so insignificant. But my mental health is making my physical health impossible to cope with and vice versa.
Thank you for talking to me

And also i just feel so immoral taking up any minute of a midwives time right now when there are people in so much greater need.
I feel immoral buying a pint of milk at the moment as i’m then depriving someone else of it!
My head is all over the place.
My 2.5 year old is the only thing keeping me going whilst simultaneously making the problem 100 times harder.
And lovely husband.

Sending you love, positive vibes and a wee bunch of flowers

Oh, and get yourself whatever you need! You need milk, buy it; you need toilet roll to dry your eyes, buy it; you need bread to make a delicious big sandwich, BUY IT!

You are high risk, pregnant and deserve to have the access to what you need, including a

I know easier said than done, but lie on your back, lock both hands behind your knee, and try and bring your knee up to your chest. You may have to take your knee out to the side so what if your bump gets in the way. Try and hold for twenty seconds or as long as you're comfortable for. Repeat other side. Helps to release trapped sciatic nerve.

Also worth googling how to relieve sciatic pain in pregnancy as some helpful tutorials out there.

It completely sucks though, you have my total sympathy. I am 20wks and completely suffering with sciatica too. No PGP but sure to be only a matter of time.

Oh my absolute goodness, I completely sympathise and screw etiquette, I wish I could give you a huge, huge hug. I totally get how you feel, I've had PGP since 26 weeks (signed off since as just couldn't move) I'm now 33. I am FULLY aware how debilitating, humiliating and utterly isolating it is. Before pregnancy I boxed, swam, ran, very fit and healthy, now I'm on a cane. You are NOT alone and don't let yourself feel any kind of guilt over this.

You are being so kind to think about the state of the world too during such a difficult time, I feel similar but you are just as entitled as anyone else to eat! Please go get some milk! If it makes you feel better at all (provide a little distraction too), go through some tins in your cupboard, maybe there's something there for the local food bank?

Thank you very much everyone. As with everyone right now, I’m up and down and last night was a huge down and today I’ve reset the clock mentally and kind of physically - the pain is always best in the morning.
I did buy milk, it’s just what is right to do morally right now isn’t it, trying to work out the fine line between being prepared and immorally stockpiling. Anyway - different topic.
I’ve texted my osteo to see if he maybe will see me - i’m not sure if I’m being wrong there though, given we are in an enclosed room.
Pp - it’s so humiliating being in this state. I’m in some ways glad people in my office don’t see me hobbling around anymore, I was doing it at 4 months pregnant and they were laughing saying you’ve got a long way to go!!! Yep, thanks.
Didn’t suffer with any of this in 1st pregnancy.
Also pp - i don’t believe it is sciatic pain as it’s not shooting pains and not at all in my legs? Think it is pgp/spd or whatever, no one has diagnosed anything as I’ve not had access to anyone to talk to throughout pregnancy, and certainly dont now (midwife/gp etc).
I just want the midwifes spending all their time caring for those in labour. That will be me shortly...
thank you again for help at a really lonely time!

Midwives aren't supposed to spend all their time caring for people in labour, their role absolutely includes caring for you, now. I'm sure they would feel the same. Yes, things are really, really tough now for everyone, but you deserve to have contact with them about being in this much pain, you honestly really do.

I know... i just think in a few weeks I will need those midwives to be front line rather than dealing with non emergency issues so it just feels selfish. It’s ok, in all honesty, even with midwife support I’m not sure anything could be done here. I was desperate last night looking for other people who understand and sympathise with just how physically hard this is, because my lovely husband obviously can’t. So I appreciate the support from posters. Mumsnet hugs for everyone right now

Also thanks for tip re foodbank, will be doing this today

Have you tried a private physio or chiropracticor for manual manipulation of u can afford it? This is my fourth my 3rd I had SPD was in agony couldn't walk etc hospital useless for it.so this time I decided to go private for a couple sessions and it's so much better I'm now 36 weeks can walk and do normal stuff just know not to overdo it or I be in pain

I’ve had 6 osteo sessions which were maybe keeping it at bay, but now any appointments have been ruled out with any healthcare professionals (I had my first NHS physio appt this week after first raising this 15 weeks ago and it was cancelled on the day) so that’s the end of that.

Hello, me again. Now 36.5 weeks pregnant, in a much better place emotionally (have found a way to cope with the news, toddler behaving better, just general acceptance of the new life) but very much not in a better place physically.
The pain is still dreadful in my back but has now also travelled to the front in between my legs, I believe this is now SPD and PGP i’ve got? This is new anyway. I really am struggling to stand long enough to say for example cut an apple for my daughter, or when i walk up the stairs i have to rest half way.
I had a routine 36 week mw appt and she was very sympathetic to me and said we need to get something done re birth (obv all treatment options like physio cant happen). She said an Obs will call me on Friday to discuss a potential plan. Induction maybe? Has anyone been in my position and can advise how the hosp went about it?
I was induced with my daughter very successfully but that was because my waters broke. No pain issues.
Thanks

Hopeful bump :-(