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Pregnancy after MMC, kind words for a scrambled brain.

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York28 · 19/03/2020 18:24

A little long, please bare with me.

Last year I had a a missed miscarriage. I was told at twelve weeks that our baby had a heartbeat but was far too small and it would not work out. I had to go back for weekly scans until it was confirmed that the heartbeat had stopped. I am sure I don’t need to tell you how devastating it was. I thought I grieved and processed it well enough. As my due date approached and went though I realised I had suppressed some of my feelings and I ending up sobbing in bosses office (she is lovely).

Today I found out I am again pregnant. I expected to feel happy and/or anxious/terrified. Instead I didn’t know how to feel. Pretty shell shocked I guess.

My husband had a sore throat last night so slept in the spare room just is case (I have Asthma he was been very cautious). He seems to be fine today but is keeping his distance just in case. He is obviously thrilled to bits but I can’t even have a hug!!

Sorry this is long, I am hoping writing it down helps my head unscramble and help me feel not too overwhelmed. If anyone has been through similar and has things that have helped I am all ears. I did a very gentle home yoga session just now which was nice.

xxx

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sassenach84 · 19/03/2020 19:12

So sorry to hear you've gone through that. And congrats! I don't have any wise words or advice to give I'm afraid. But just wanted to let you know that everything you're feeling is completely normal and understandable. I had an MMC at 9 weeks last May. Now 25 weeks pregnant and I don't think I stopped worrying until I really started feeling the baby move around 20 weeks. I had scans every two weeks until 14 weeks and DREADED each one as always expected to hear bad news. But at the same time they helped me by knowing that if it was going to be MMC again, I wouldn't get too far in the pregnancy before I found out.

Good luck and take care of yourself x

York28 · 19/03/2020 19:51

Thank you for your response, and I am happy to hear you are 25 weeks!

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Petal1762109 · 19/03/2020 20:23

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy! It's such an overwhelming mix of emotions and equally can feel a bit numbing. I had a missed miscarriage late 2018 and am now 19 weeks pregnant. My best advice would be it's a totally different pregnancy and to focus on that, taking a day at a time. Keep talking to your husband/whenever you feel comfortable with when things feel too much, it helped me to get things out of my head, however big or small. Things like the calm app and breathing exercises all helpful generally. Re additional scans, I think it's good to know that option is there if want them. I realised I was only reassured for the 5 minutes I was in the scan so ended up not having many more but it's a personal decision and whichever approach is the right one for the individual. Take care and be kind to yourself x

Petal1762109 · 19/03/2020 20:25

*whoever you feel comfortable with

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