AIBU - coronavirus.

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24 weeks pregnant living in london and self-isolating while working from home. MIL, FIL and BIL (who works in a hospital as a healthcare assistant) are due to visiting this weekend from the midlands.

I just am so scarse about this virus that i dont want them coming. Am i being unreasonable? Their point and my partners point is that it might be the last occasion for the foreseeable future. Which I understand but does not make me feel less scary.

Any advice?

Tell them no, you’re vulnerable and they need to respect that

Thanks for the reply. I could move to my parents but then I have antenatal appointments (only things I will leave the house for - but still dangerous) in the hospital and don't want infect them as they are old.

Really dont know what to do and how to approach it

Nope, they shouldn't be coming. What part of social distancing and no non-essential travel don't they understand? I'm afraid you need to put your foot down about this. Just send them a link to the government guidelines.

And it should be your partner stepping up here and telling them not to come - he's risking your health and theirs.

Hi OP,

My husbands family live in Birmingham - his mother works in a school, still goes to the gym and isn’t really social distancing at all! He was supposed to visit this weekend.

My mum is 70, works from home already and has been social distancing! I was also supposed to see her this weekend.

We have made the decision that we are seeing neither of them until the 12 week social distancing recommendations for pregnant women is up!

More than that, we have made the hard decision to not see ANY friends or family, again until the government recommendation that 12 week social distancing recommendation changes!

It’s beyond shit. We are beyond pissed. But we figure it’s worth it to a) ensure our baby/me is safe and healthy and b) this curve gets dampened and eventually society can get back to normal!

x

You all are saying sensible things. I feel horrible though. Say like they catch it and die - I will have been the reason he did not get to see them one last time.

Also, we have been postponing this visit for quite a while and now he feels in a very difficult position to cancel as they have already organised everything.

He told me he can cancel if I really do want to but I can see he's really uncomfortable in doing so.

Reality is - some people are not taking it seriously at all. I told them to social distance and they replied that "they only meet up with people they know really well", as if that could make any difference.

What a terrible situation. Thabks for the advice xx

You’re in exactly the same situation I was in with my husband!

He was also going to see his Nan who is 94 and he said just that “what if she dies and I don’t see her”. Well flip that argument! If she’s so frail that she COULD die, do you want to take the chance, no matter how slim, that you (or anyone else) could see her and infect her?

So in your situation your MIL/FIL, if they’re so frail this could kill them should THEY not be self isolating?

FaceTime exists, it’s a shit substitute but the risk of them getting sick outweighs seeing them!

Also, nice wee guilt trip your DH used! Mine did the same “I can cancel if you want....”. It’s not like that! It’s a United front! Ultimately he needs to think about the risk to YOU! You’re his wife and carrying his child. I don’t want to open the discussion of family loyalties as that’s too emotive but he needs back you know this situation!

MIL/FIL/BIL, they aren’t social distancing and you have to! There is no point you doing it if they aren’t!

That’s how I discussed things with my husband anyway... x

I would say absolutely no. The chances of getting it are still fairly low but it isn't worth the risk in my opinion! Also if it makes you uncomfortable and causes you stress then I think that's another to say no.

Also If it helps, the thread I posted 2 days ago asking if I was being unreasonable 😂

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3851704-Corona-virus-Am-I-being-unreasonable?pg=1&order=

General consensus? NO 😂 x