Just worried

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I'm just in this huge panic that I'll have to go through labour alone due to all this mess! I'm 27 weeks, first baby I've been pretty calm through out all this but the thought of giving birth alone really terrifies me so much :(

I woke up yesterday with the exact same fear!!
The plan has always been that I will only have my partner with me during birth, but my anxiety is sky rocketing incase he becomes unwell from the virus and isn't able to be there with me.
Both my mum and mother in law are in the high risk categories due to health concerns so I would be left to labour alone!

One minute I'm ok, and the next it dawns on me again and if go into meltdown (I'm blaming the hormones at the moment!). I'm 22 weeks, so I am trying to stay hopeful that things will have stablisised a little by then.

Try to look after yourself op, it's a really difficult time for everyone and anxieties are inevitable 💚

My fear is they will stop birthing partners all together it's scaring me way to much

I'm 30 weeks. We're having my elderly DGM coming to stay (dementia and unable to remember not to go out etc) coming to stay, so will be self isolating beforehand to try to keep her safe.
Is this an option for you? Able to spend a week or so alone before (I know the baby will come when the baby's ready, but worth a try) so that you have no opportunity to pick up the virus?

No my concern is that hospitals will say no we're not slowing birthing pArtners AT ALL due to wanting to protect everyone in every way :(

I have the same fear and have started to have panic attacks in the mast couple of days. What sometimes helps me is to remember that you would absolutely not be on your own. There will always be a midwife there to hold your hand. It might not be the birth you expected but you will not be alone. Also, think of the stories you'll be telling your children and grandchildren! I used to ask my grandparents about their experiences during the war or other historical events within their lifetime and no doubt, our children and theirs will be asking us about this time (and what life was like without the internet!).xx

I'm 22 weeks and terrified, I'm waking up at 5am after 5 hours of sleep and just lying there worried about all the things that might/could happen. Terrified I won't be able to have a csection, terrified I won't be able to have my partner with me at birth.

I'm trying to not worry, but it's a pointless battle

Feeling the same. I’m 38 weeks on Saturday and so worried they won’t let my husband in if he has a sniffle 😖

I'm with you OP! I'm 27 weeks on Saturday and absolutely terrified I will have to give birth by myself, I was planning on having DH and my mum and at first I thought it would probably mean my mum couldn't be there which is very sad but now the thought that DH won't be able to is awful and scary. I'm trying to take it a day at a time but my anxiety is out of control! I've had an anxiety disorder all my life and especially health anxiety so this is all hideous.

We just need to keep everything crossed that by June things are looking better and we won't have to do it alone! Even if we do I'm sure there will be some lovely midwives and doctors to hold our hand through it

I know I can go it alone, but would be better to have my husband there.

25 weeks now, was looking forward to a third trimester of nesting, yoga, swimming etc... Will just try my best to keep active, in the house.

Planning a natural birth, but if things are a bit mad at hospital... I don’t want a c-section, epidural or any drugs & hopefully little intervention.

I’m 26 weeks and have thought about this. To be honest I’m more worried about DH missing out. I’d be so gutted for him as this is our first baby and will likely be the only one.

Spend this time preparing for all possibilities. What you can take to keep your mind occupied whilst you’re there. Maybe try an online hypnobirthing course. I can’t see why you wouldn’t be able to video call him. It’s not the same but it’s the next best thing. As op said, you won’t be alone, you’ll have team of professionals taking care of you.

Hopefully everyone will start taking quarantine and social distancing seriously and we can go through this for 4/6 weeks and then start to return to normal.

I'm just in a right mess worrying that he's not going to be there it's so worrying it's stopping me even sleeping

I am sharing in these fears too. So difficult, and so out of our control.