Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks

[chickpea123]

Hello,

I had a surgically managed miscarriage yesterday as I went for a scan at 6 weeks, due to some spotting and they confirmed a heartbeat. I went back at 7 weeks, again, good heartbeat. I began to spot again at 8+6 and went for a scan at 9+1 to be told there was no heartbeat. The baby measured 9 weeks.

I just feel completely empty and that I can’t understand how it could of happened. I read that the chance of miscarriage after a heartbeat at 7 weeks was very low.

I am fit and healthy and did all the right things. I have a 2 year old already and I honestly just (stupidly) thought everything would be ok. I just wondered if anyone had an similar experience? Anyone go on to have healthy pregnancies after. Thank u in advance xx

I'm so very sorry ❤️
You did nothing wrong at all, this is not your fault. Very sadly, sometimes these things just happen and there's nothing anyone could have done.
So many people go on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies after a miscarriage, one does not mean you'll suffer another.
Please take care of yourself and sending you all my best wishes. Take care xxx

I’m so sorry. I have been there with a very similar experience. My babies heartbeat stopped at 10+2 after seeing it 3 times, the latest being 9+4. I had surgical management and the baby genetically tested - she had Edwards syndrome. You’re in the thick of it and the pain and confusion is unbearable. Miscarriages after seeing a heartbeat, when the risk is such a low % is usually down to an abnormality and very sadly, our babies were never able to make it. Go easy on yourself x

Thank u both. I’m so so sorry to hear that too. Is that what they said then, that is most likely genetic when the risk is so low? I keep thinking it’s maybe because I was really stressed out at around 8 weeks as my partner was having problems, we were arguing and then the corona virus news was freaking me out.

Unfortunately there is nothing you could do..it’s not your fault . Sorry about your loss. I had a mmc 2y ago at nearly 11w, was devastated. I had a nearly 3y old at that time and also naively , stupidly thought this would never happen to us and everything would be fine just like with the first one, it was a shock..take care of yourself x

I highly doubt it was due to stress. As you say in your original post, you did everything right. Sometimes, Mother Nature takes over and some babies aren’t destined to join us. This does not mean that you can’t have another beautifully healthy baby and pregnancy, when your body, mind and heart are ready x

I'm very sorry, I've been there and it's heartbreaking after seeing the heartbeat. Give yourself time to grieve and don't push yourself to move on.

Thank you everyone. I have had so many people say that it has happened to them and it is so lovely to have such kind and reassuring words from all of you on here. Thank you so much

I hope this will make you feel better
Spontaneous miscarriage at 9 weeks
Health baby number 1
Missed miscarriage 9 weeks (needed d and c)
Healthy baby number 2
Miscarriage 11 weeks
Healthy baby number 3

Don't worry it's common and the fact you already have a bubba should give you confidence