Advice for when trying to conceive but no luck

[Msbrown2505]

I’ve been trying to conceive for about 3 months and had no luck, any advice on what to do? Quite stressed and feeling as though nothing is working x

3 months is too soon to be worrying! My one tip is that if you see EWCM (egg white cervical mucus), definitely make sure you do the deed on that day. Generally having a healthy lifestyle helps too but I'm sure you know that.

There is on average around a 20% chance of conceiving on any given menstrual cycle for a woman of the age of 30. It's only slightly higher in your twenties, I think 25-30%. So in only three months there is every chance that there's nothing you could have done differently to improve your chances, and it's just not your month. No need to worry yet. Hang in there xx

Hi OP,

Sorry to hear of your frustrations!

Me and my husband were trying for 7 months doing standard period tracking and ovulation sticks. I fell pregnant but sadly had a MC. Whilst I was recovering my friend told me about the Natural Cycles app which she was using along with the thermometer for contraception (Not recommended btw) - it also doubles as a ovulation fertility tracker!

So after I had my first natural period post MC I used this app and the thermometer (you also use ovulation sticks) and I was pregnant within the month!

I’m not saying it’s 100% but If you aren’t super fertile and need to do it BANG ON ovulation like me, this app will help!

Xx

Hang in there OP. I will keep my fingers cross for you

3 months is not that long considering you only have around a 20% chance of conceiving in any cycle. It’s well within normal/average (for me it was eight months). You might find the conception forum helpful as there are more people there in a similar boat but statistically the majority of couples successfully conceive within a year without needing any intervention.

Most likely it doesn’t mean anything, 3 months is literally no time at all. You could go to your GP but they wouldn’t take it seriously yet. You could pay for private tests if you want

Roll a dice and see how long it takes you to get a 6. Repeat this a few times and then see if 3 months still feels like a worryingly long time to try :)

Don't panic. Anything up to 8 months is absolutely normal. Make sure you're doing the obvious things, try to work out when exactly in your cycle you're ovulating, and defo have sex on the few days leading up to that, avoid normal lube (if you like to use something, get sperm friendly lube like preseed), and get DH on a men's health multivitamin. Then just keep going, if nothing happens after a year your GP can refer you for investigations. If one of you is over 35 make the appointment after 6 months instead. But it's likely you just haven't rolled your 6 yet. Don't panic!

Hi! I bought a Clear Blue Advanced Fertility Monitor - a bit pricey, but cant recommend them enough

3 months is not a long time to be trying, it took me 2 years.
Start taking folic acid so you are prepared and just relax. Stress will not help trying to conceive.
I felt when i stopped tracking and let things happen naturally it happened.

Statistically speaking as long as no fertility issues you have a 20% chance of conceiving each month. 90% of couples will conceive within one year and 97% will conceive within two years. It’s not been that long yet. Give it a year and then if still no luck maybe start to look at investigations

Try Pre-seed lubricant which is meant to mimic natural secretions to make the sperm travel faster. Look up reviews. People rave about it. Both I and a friend got a bfp the first month trying it.

Look up the sperm meets egg plan. You can download free from amazon.

Try temping (measuring temperature every morning using a basal base thermometer and recording in the fertility friends app. This will show when you ovulate and give an indication of if you are pregnant before you test. Read up about it.

Use ovulation predictor kits to confirm your ovulation dates and do the deed every day during the fertile window plus the day after too.

(I did all these things and got pregnant in first month, then unfortunately had a mmc, then got pregnant again in the first month if trying again)

We used preseed 4 times and I have an 9 month old daughter, give it a go! Good luck.

Pre-Seed
Get something like the ava wristbands or i think it's called Ovia... An internal temperature thingy. You can get cheaper ones that you put under your tongue but you have to wake up the same time every day and have to have slept well which for me turned out to be really stressful.
Get cheap opk strips from Amazon by a brand cashed one step. Get their preg tests as well. They work sooooooo much better than overpriced clear blue ones!

I was like you, got myself into atiz before i got the ovia thing. It didn't actually help at all, i feel pregnant before it found but it relaxed me. It made me feel like i could track my cycles better.

Anyway, just cos someone says "i used Pre-Seed and fell pregnant 3 dates later" doesn't mean you will do. It doesn't work as easy as that. If you ate a pear and fell pregnant afterward, it probably wasn't due to the pear.

But these things can help. If you need lube then or seed in necessary cos other lubes often have spermicide in them.

Good to know when you are ovulating as you can time your err activities around this and leave the husband alone on days your not fertile.

Mostly try to relax. All the stress didn't help. Says i who stressed out about it every month.

I had Ava - defo not worth the hefty price tag

Have lots of sex.

I'm not being facetious. After 3 months plus stress the best thing to try is having unprotected sex more often!

@Msbrown2505 Sorry you're feeling stressed. It doesnt help when people tell you 3 months isnt long and you shouldn't worry.... because you still do!
I was very lucky in that Ive fallen pregnant 2nd cycle, but I used the clear blue advance digital ovulation tests (flashing/static smiley one) this was brilliant because we knew when to dtd so gives you that little more confidence that you've done what you can. I also used preseed, I though might as well try it and it may be coincidence but it seemed to work. Not overly expensive if you want to know you've done all you can. Hope this helps, and good luck.

Thank you everyone for all your help, stress won’t be helping me of course sadly I’m just a worrier but I’ll try to limit it as much as I can!