20 week scan anxiety

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The anxiety has hit me like a truck throughout this pregnancy, yet I feel like I had got to a place where I had managed it to a level where I could feel happy and excited etc.

However I now have my 20 week scan on Wednesday and the anxiety that I had for the 12 week scan has come back with a vengeance as I know this is the 'big scan' as it were to check for any anomalies (first time mumma) . I can't shake the thought that I'm convinced they will tell me that baby either doesn't have a heartbeat anymore or she has something that is incompatible with life. It doesn't help that I don't think felt baby move yet even though I have a posterior placenta and everyone is constantly asking me if I've felt flutters yet. Had a 16 week private gender scan and she was wriggling around but that was a month ago. All my other symptoms have disappeared too and just don't feel pregnant now except for my bump!

Did anyone else feel like this before their scan? How likely is it they find these things at the 20 week scan? Wednesday feels like a lifetime away and I guess I'm just hoping I haven't been the only one to feel like this! 😟

I feel like this before every scan x
I had my 20w scan a couple of weeks and they couldn't get all the measurements they needed so I'm back tomorrow for a follow up scan. Movements I keep being told don't have until between 16-24 weeks. I have an anterior placenta and haven't felt anything yet but my friend who has a posterior placenta didn't feel anything until 22w.
When I went for the 20w scan the sonographer told me it was so unlikely for something to have happened between 12w scan and 20w so you also
Have the added reassurance of a 16wk scan

Just take some deep breaths and you'll be fine I'm sure x

I have mine on the 9th April and I’m really anxious that something will happen before then. Because I feel well! I have a scan tomorrow (private ) to find out the gender , so that’s giving me a bit of reassurance but I totally get you! Please let us know how you get on xx

I'm sure there is absolutely nothing to worry about! Easier said than done though. The good thing is you had a good 16 week scan and it would be extremely rare for anything to have happened since then.

A lot of people I know didn't feel any movement until after 20 week scan, so please don't be worried about that. Also I don't feel pregnant at all, couldn't think of a symptom to tell you apart from my growing belly.

My 20 week scan is Wednesday too. I'm trying to put it to the back of my mind and not panic too much about it. If I start thinking I start googling and that's never good haha.

All we can do is hope for good news and I'm sure we'll be fine !

Thank you so much ladies, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!!

@jdy123 best of luck for Wednesday, keeping everything crossed for you and please let us know how it goes! Definitely shouldn't moan about the lack of symptoms I know that, it just makes you worry doesn't it!

Reaching out in solidarity - my scan is Tuesday and the nerves that I had before the 12 week are coming back. Exactly what you say: what if they find that the heartbeat has stopped? I think I've felt a couple of little flutters, but nothing that I can really be sure isn't just normal bubbles of my body.

I'm trying to reassure myself that it will all be fine, but part of me is going to fret until they actually have the scanner on me & I see the baby! Hehe.

@WeeScottishWife sending my love and please let us know how you get on! Keeping everything crossed for you xxx

so glad im not alone, I have my 20week scan tomorrow, I also had a private 16 week gender scan and have an anterior placenta so haven't felt anything as yet apart from bubbles that may just be wind.

I am petrified for tomorrow, not that the heart as stopped but more that they find a life threatening abnormality that means I will need to have a medical termination or something.

I am high risk for Downs due to low papp-A which doesn't help as ive read horror stories about slow growth and birth defects.

I really wish I could just enjoy pregnancy...instead im just full of worry and anxiety on the lead up to every scan and appointment.

Hope yours all go ok, big hugs to you all xx

Totally understand what you mean. It is such an anxious time. Very similar to you, had early gender scan she was wriggling then I have felt things that I think are movement, but they could just be wind there is no way of telling! You just imagine the worst, it's hormones acting crazy too.
I just try and relax and do some breathing stuff I've learnt in yoga when I start getting carried away worrying, I try and keep calm as I know it can't be good for baby too. Easier said than done sometimes though.
Best of luck xx

I felt the same at my 20 week scan, well and the 12 week and every scan! Always worried! I'm now 39+3 and due a csection in 2 days and I'm still worried!
When I went for my 20 week scan they couldn't get all measurements so I had to go back 2 weeks after.

Good luck to the ladies who have scans today

Yes good luck everyone!

Had my scan today and all was well!

Awww yay! Amazing.
Getting nervous for mine tomorrow now 😫

@WeeScottishWife so happy your scan went well! Hope you feel some relief.

I had mine too today, mine went sort of well (I think) but they couldn’t check the heart and face due to his position and constant moving.

Everything else looked fine.

So I’m still slightly worried.

Hopefully when I go back in 2 weeks, he plays ball.
Literally every scan I’ve had, he’s been a little bugger and constantly moving.
100% defiant and a pain just like his dad.

Xx

Congratulations on your positive scans everyone!

I had mine today and all was perfect with her, except for being a wriggler! I have a low lying placenta though so being referred to a consultant and need another scan at 34 weeks. It's my first baby so not sure what that means risk wise?!

Aw this is good news both of you.

Mine was today and went well too but couldn't get a good photo cause baby was lying in an awkward position so couldn't see face boo! Main thing however was baby was fine.
I'm not sure on the low placenta but hopefully will be not much of an issue !