Why do I hate everyone?

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I'm 12 weeks pg with my 2nd, and for the past few weeks I just can't stand being around people I hate everyone - especially my partner. He's done nothing wrong and if anything does anything possible to help - it's just like nothing he does is right and I can't stop getting so uncontrollably angry at him. I hate being around him, and it's starting to grind on him now too as it would. When he's not in I want him to be in the house with me but I don't enjoy being around him?! Is it my hormones? My first pregnancy was different, it was my ex and our relationship was volatile so I don't ever remember hating him for no reason, only valid reasons 😂 it's like I just want everyone to go away and just want to spend this pregnancy away from everyone and I want to be by myself. I really wanted to enjoy this pregnancy as I really didn't enjoy the first, but I've suffered extreme hg since week 4 and I'm really struggling, on top of hating everyone. Please tell me it's just hormones and in 6 months time I'll be fine haha

I didn't see this was in Pregnancy and was going to reply "because most people are dicks" - maybe that's because I'm pregnant too 😂

I think it's totally normal.. hopefully you feel better soon. I was utterly miserable in 1st trimester.

Hormones can play havoc with your thoughts and feelings, and so until things settle down naturally in your body all that is possible, in my experience, is damage control. I know it's not exactly the same, but I had a horrendous time on IVF hormones and although I am off them I definitely feel more irritable at times. I wrote a letter to my partner to tell him I love him and that my body sometimes doesn't feel like it's my own. When I feel I'm about to lose my cool I leave the house and understand that I am the one who needs to back off. Get some fresh air, exercise and do try to get time on your own to breath. I don't know if it will pass as I'm only 16 and half weeks, but I do find a little self-isolation does wonders for my relationship!

Wow I had to giggle just a bit when I read this 💐

I’m 7 weeks and everything and everyone is making me mad right now 👍

Scrolling fb - urgh annoying people 😒
Watching tv - fume the volume is too loud 😵
Catching up on some news - omg everyone is so stupid 🙄
Husband does anything that isn’t telling me he loves me and I’m great even tho I’ve been whining on the sofa for a week already - fucks sake he’s so selfish 😤
Husband picks his nose and I can see it out of the corner of my eye - 🤯🤬

I think it’s just normal, the best thing you can do is remind yourself that it will probably pass and you’re probably not feeling yourself or rational right now xxx

I had this basically my whole pregnancy, the only person who didn’t annoy me was DH because he had to help me so much.

I got so used to people annoying me that I just thought that’s how I was becoming! Now DD is born I am no longer angry at everyone, thank god! Had to send an apology to my colleague for listening to me rant about everyone on social media or for every text message I got 🙈

Changed username!

Maggie272 - thank you that's a great help. I usually get out running a couple of times a week, due to the hg and between hospital admissions for dehydration, low iron and the general RUBBISHNESS of pregnancy, I haven't been out and it certainly is getting to me. Thank you I defo need to try focus on an alternative just now.

Flashesofrage - I lol'd at your username I honestly wish I had thought of it before! Honestly I can't control myself - especially with the coronavirus stuff I see so many stupid comments online and you would just ignore and scroll but now I'm actually replying looking for a fight 😂😂 I can't stop!

ALSO I just typed this whole message out, and my partner got into bed beside me and made me press a button that wiped the message. You can just imagine the FACE!!!

Haha I go through phases of this, currently 20 weeks pregnant. In the first few weeks I was in a bubble of how much I loved DH and how wonderful and supportive he was (I had to have some early scans and my anxiety was off the charts, he was so wonderful) but I’d say from week 10 ish went out the window. He generally pisses me off no end now and I go from feeling like he should be here/with me more to wishing he’d just piss off. The rational part of me realises I love him to bits really and this is a me problem and not his fault, but that does get lost in the fog sometimes.

For a few weeks I genuinely couldn’t bear to be in the room with my in-laws, I don’t know how I held my tongue and didn’t say/do something to irreparably damage our relationship forever. They can be fussarses and go on about inane things a bit but they’re generally nice people and hadn’t really deserved anything to deserve my ire, but luckily that’s passed a bit now, think I just needed some space.

I really do find getting out for a walk with dog, even just ten minutes, helps when I feel like I’m going to snap. Had to drag the poor pooch out in the rain earlier as the sound of DH’s computer game was making me feel like smashing something.

I was EVIL with DD. I hated absolutely everyone at work and all my family except DS and Dh. The people i didnt like pre pregnancy were in serious danger of me throwing something at the back of their heads. I work in a high stress environment and it was only made worse. It eased off eventually luckily, and im glad to say i refrained from throwing any chairs and work did not have to isolate me for everyone elses safety

The pregnancy hormone rage is just so real then!

I just seem to pick out and highlight problems with everyone right now and focus in on it so much that makes me HATE them. And they've done nothing wrong really. I really just have a total desire to be left alone just now. The only person I'm fine around is my daughter ?! She can have cuddles etc but god forbid somebody else touch me it's like my body freezes up like ugh go away.

Pregnancy is mental

I hated everyone my whole first trimester and was a burning ball of rage and hatred, then it came back towards the end of my third trimester.

@mumstheword2904

😂 Thanks! I have to confess... this was my username before I ever got pregnant 😬 I must be real fun to be around hahaha xx

I’m the same, getting into arguments that I would normally just scroll past x

Me too!

I just want to be on my own! Friends are ok, but I'm getting uncharacteristically irate and impatient with strangers and my poor DH is completely unbearable (for no reason and no fault of his own). Why is that? Is there some hidden biological / evolutionary purpose??!! Hugs from my kids are still lovely, but I don't want to be touched by anyone else AT ALL. Hard to know how to handle it - I try to bite my tounge in conversation, but DH must feel it when I completely tense at any physical contact.

Oh yes I was awful in work last tine just really irritable and couldn't seem to stop it, it's hormones, tiredness and the fact that pregnancy is just bloody hard work so you just need some peace and quiet, it'll pass xx

I wish I could say I bite my tongue but I really can't it's like it's uncontrollable. I do feel so much better knowing that it's not just me and my relationship is not doomed to fail (least not yet 😂) because I'm an arsehole!