I was just wondering if anyone had any advice. I recently moved to a new area, 3 hours away from my friends and family and I commute 1 hour each way for my work. I don’t know anyone in the area and have struggled to meet people due to my commute, illness and generally not being home late in an evening. Now I’m unable to work due to covid 19 and I just feel so isolated here. I hate being at home yet I have nowhere to be. Back home I knew of lots of places to walk, shop, garden centres etc plus I had all my friends and family. I am quite a social person but where I have moved to is not very social, I tried a new mums to be group but felt very overwhelmed, they were all so much older than me, seemed to know what they were doing, were prepared and I felt very inadequate. They were also not the kinds of women I have things in common with so really struggled to fit in. It has also been mentioned by work that I may have a degree of autism, this has come as quite a surprise because it was never mentioned to me before despite quite a successful career, and back home and school I always had lots of friends and I am the organiser of my friend group get togethers. I have never struggled with self confidence before but here I am anxious about going anywhere alone and with a baby. The idea of having nobody to just pop into with a baby is terrifying. I’m also very much aware of how I don’t have my mum, she died only a few years ago and I get a lot of comments about how you need your mum. It makes me cry every day as I can’t just magic a new one. I feel so jealous of all the women who have friends and family around them. I can go visit back home but because of my partners work we can only go every couple of months and even then I don’t see everyone I want too.
I have tried to settle in my new area, I have tried volunteering but am only free on a weekend and I normally make plans months in advance so that I don’t feel lonely. I have also tried the local area apps and groups but I don’t get any response to messages.
I just would like to know if anyone is in the same boat or has been? I’m sorry this is long !