Just generally anxious - anyone feeling the same?

[BuffaloCauliflower]

Pregnant with my first. Got BFP at the weekend, 4+1 today and just generally quite worried that it won’t hang in there.

Got pregnant first cycle trying last October but lost it at 5+3. I was pretty pragmatic about it, I know early losses are common. But now pregnant again and just feeling worried again. Last time I felt straight away that it wasn’t going to stick (probably why I wasn’t too surprised when it didn’t) this time I’ve felt more positive but now I’m worried I’m lulling myself into a false sense of security - a ridiculous cycle I know! I do suffer with anxiety anyway so this isn’t wholly unexpected.

I think I’m worried most about a missed miscarriage. The thought of getting to the 12 week scan and something being wrong... but if I get an early scan at 8-9 weeks something can still go wrong so it’s a false security.

DH is of the ‘don’t worry until there’s something to worry about’ camp but it’s not that simple. He was more upset than me about previous MC so I know he’s just trying to be calming, but I need to vent a bit. So here I am! Anyone else driving themselves a bit nuts?

Hello! Just wanted to say congratulations! Seen you a few times on TTC so lovely to see you have your BFP.

I'm 10 +1 and I had the private scan at 8 weeks and it did really help. I'm still very worried about my 12 week scan, like you say it's false security, but from what others have said it's completely normal to feel anxious - esp with all those hormones whoosing around your system. I told my sonographer that I was really worried and she said it's very common and she'd be more worried if i wasnt. Getting to see that little bean on screen with a heartbeat really made it feel real and more exciting/less terrifying.

When you get your midwife appointment you can tell him/her about your anxiety too. Mine takes anxiety very seriously and said she would work with me at future appointments to help that anxiety.

I get the feeling that worry is just going to be the norm now, though. As whether it's the 12 week, 20 week, birth or them being here there will always be something. I know my 12 week fear is kicking in. Just try and take care of yourself as much as possible

Thanks @Quiffy that’s all really kind my mum says the worry starts now and lasts their entire life, so I may as well get used to it! I think it’s just the lack of control I find so hard. I can be healthy but even then i know most losses are simply because the foetus isn’t viable. I’m really hopeful though and really that’s all I can be.

My mum says exactly the same! In fact, she's still stressing about me as I'm so ill with morning sickness. Good to know that we'll all be worrying until we pop our clogs!

That's what I try to remember. If the worst happens then it's just one of those things, not because you did something or didnt do something, no matter how heartbreaking that will be. Here's to healthy babies!

Hiya. I'm in the same boat. Had a miscarriage in November at 7 weeks. Am 9 weeks now and very nervous. Driving my self insane with anxiety. Not sure how I'll get through 9 months of this.

I’m sorry others aren’t feeling great but also good to not be alone in this boat. Keep getting stabby pains in the lower left side of my womb area and it’s stressing me out. I know it’s normal to have all kinds of weird pains and cramps but it’s impossible to know what good normal and what’s bad normal!

Still not good today. Keep poking my boobs to check they’re still sore 😂 totally ridiculous, but the boobs pain going was one of the first things that went when I had my MC. Trying to chill out but it’s not easy

I didn’t want to read and run. I think the whole of pregnancy is going to be an anxious but exciting time. But the first trimester is tough, as you are constantly looking for that reassurance that it’s ok.

I suffer with anxiety, and have had recurrent miscarriages. I’m 8 weeks, and so nervous. The midwife and consultant have been great with me, and say the best thing to do is stay calm. I Am trying to be positive.

With symptoms, be aware they come and go. I’ve had no symptoms for weeks, apart from being exhausted, and cramping. I kept thinking this meant something was wrong, but I’ve had 2 scans now and everything is fine, my midwife also reassured me that this is normal for someone, and everybody’s pregnancy is different.

As for the early scan that reassurance was nice, but it is short lived.

Hope your ok!

Thanks @DressingGown87 I suffer with anxiety too so it probably is expected. The fluctuating symptoms are so tricky! I just have to try to relax and whatever will be will be.

@buffalocauliflower I think for anyone it’s an anxious times, but heightened if you already suffer with day to day anxiety. I’m the same, I try and distract myself, and stay calm. What will be will be, and we can’t do anymore. We just have to remind ourselves of that. X