Partner keeps kissing my non-existent bump

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Currently only 11 weeks pregnant. My partner keeps kissing my belly, not just once a day but like 10 times in one go, several times a day. It really annoys me and I don't know why. I mean I do, I feel like as I'm not the far along all he's doing is kissing my belly not a baby bump, which is true. At this point it just looks like I ate a big meal so in my head he's kissing fat
Every time he does it I fight the urge to tell him to stop (although I have told him to a few times) as it's his first child (my second) and I guess he's just excited. But it's getting to the point where I'm gonna scream at him because he doesn't get why I don't like it even though I explained.
Am I being mean if I tell him to stop?

God no woman. Your body. Tell him to back off.

Yes personally I think you would be.My husband started touching/kissing my stomach very early on, I'm now 34 weeks. You've got the remember you started having a connection to the baby from finding out you're pregnant, men don't really have any connection. My husband said he didn't really feel any proper connection until he could feel her kicks and movements now he touches my bump/talks and sings to her just like I do. It's probably just his way of connection and like you say he's excited. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy x

Just tell him that what he's kissing is a massive backed-up turd, not the baby at this point.

tell him that while on one hand its cute, its also making you feel quite crowded, so can he back off please

Sorry this made me laugh.
I know what you mean though.

I am currently 22 weeks pregnant, have a noticeable bump and have told my husband he is not allowed to kiss my belly!

I also don’t like him stroking my belly! As I say to him “I’m not a cat”.

I don’t think you’re unreasonable at all! For me it takes away my autonomy a little bit.. like I’m just an incubator! He didn’t kiss or stroke my belly pre pregnancy?

I get that it’s hard for the partner as we carry the baby and feel it move so we have a more instantaneous connection but there are other ways for them to establish the same! Also, they just need to wait 9 months and the baby will be there for a connection in real life!

Be nice about it, even jokey about it if that’s your relationship dynamic (ours certainly is) and he should understand!

If it bothers you tell him to stop. I find the whole kissing the bump thing a bit odd. My partner would put his hand on my bump occasionally to feel kicks but that was it.

I'm sure he doesn't want to upset you, but you must let him know you're uncomfortable.

Book a weekend away.

Could be worse, my cousin's DH kisses my bump 😐

@Spam88 - I’m sorry I know that’s not funny but that REALLY made me laugh!

@DesLynamsMoustache your comment genuinely just made me choke on my tea. Hilarious.

I think people in general underestimate how much it can make people feel uncomfortable suddenly having people touch a part of your body that you usually would never dream of touching. Just because you are pregnant gives no excuse, and that goes for husbands/partners too. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you shouldn't just have to put up with it because you're pregnant. Your privacy needs to be respected.

A friend of mine is very much a personal space person and anyone that knows her is well aware of that, but she said people that she works with all of a sudden started rubbing her tummy and thinking it was ok.

I would just be really honest with him and congratulations

That would really piss me off OP. I'm 33 weeks and no way would I tolerate that with my bump now, never mind 11 weeks!
I'm not a touchy feely person anyway and I don't particularly enjoy being pregnant.

I'd have to tell him.

You’re allowed to not like it just because you don’t like it. There’s no such thing as being reasonable about how you perceive touch etc.

I completely get it - I was the same, so I started rubbing his belly back 😂
Now he pulls my top up every day and pokes my belly button and comments on the progress of it (it's nearly popped out now) it fascinates him. Weirdly that doesn't annoy me - I think it's his strange way of bonding some how.

Just to prepare you it does get worse - strangers will start touching your belly. Its like you suddenly turn into public property.
My friends husband once came and sat next to me and put his hands on my belly without asking. It was really fucking weird.

My DH is literally the only person I don't mind touching or kissing my bump, as long as it's not too often. I don't want anyone else near it!

Aww I love it when OH kisses or strokes my bump....I'm 18 weeks now and he's started talking to the baby too!
It's the first for both of us and it honestly makes me love him even more when I see him bonding with the bump..... it must be the pregnancy hormones as I'm not normally this soppy haha

This would definitely annoy me. I think it would be totally reasonable for you to have him to ask before he does it and give you chance to say no if you don’t want the contact. I’m finding I need even more personal space than usual in pregnancy; everything changes so rapidly and it can feel overwhelming to have other people impose any of their own notions. Having said that my partner’s been putting his hand on my lower belly and ‘having a chat’ (silently) with the foetus since we found out because it seemed important for him to have moments to connect. But he asks or I offer, no assuming.

Criiiinge. The only person who is allowed to kiss my bump is my three year old, now that is adorable. DH might give it the occasional little rub in passing or have a feel when she's kicking away but if he started slobbering all over it I'd have something to say...

Ugh