23 weeks and emotional mess

[2020firsttimemum]

As the title suggests I'm 23 weeks pregnant and an absolute mess.

Every little thing is getting to me. Today, I tried to put babies Moses basket together but ended up throwing it on the floor and getting back into bed crying my eyes out.

I've spent most of the day crying for varies 'ridiculous things'

• spent 3 hours cleaning the house on Friday and now it's a mess
• can't find my calculator
• IKEA didn't have the drawers we needed for the nursery wardrobe
• I don't understand something for an exam next week
• the second bedroom is a mess

Literally cannot stop frying and feeling like sh*t.

I don't know what I'm after here. I guess someone to tell me it's completely normal and they get it too? Feeling so incredibly fed up today 😭

Yes it is normal. You're hormonal and little things can push you over the edge. I've had a few episodes of uncontrollable crying during my pregnancy.
Good luck with the exam!

@2020firsttimemum I am 20 weeks into my first pregnancy and in the last week I have had really low points in the evenings. As you describe, little things have been getting to me and I have been having bouts of tears despite having had really good days. I haven't got any medical experience to say whether this is normal or not but I am hoping that by knowing we aren't alone in it gives us both some solace! I hope things improve for you soon.

Thanks both for your replies!
@aecpro it's awful isn't it! My first pregnancy too and I was never particularly emotional before pregnancy...

I guess the only thing sometimes is to have a nice hot bath, a cuppa tea and get into bed early and forget about the evening and move on tomorrow 😩

Good luck with your pregnancy journey, hopefully it passes soon

@2020firsttimemum it is horrible, I feel so excited and happy and lucky for so many reasons but then small stresses or daily challenges are really bringing me down so easily. I suppose this is one of the joys of pregnancy ha! I am currently living abroad and so feeling somewhat isolated being physically separated from family other than my OH which has hit me hard this week.
How have you been feeling otherwise in your pregnancy?

I'm 28 weeks and def have had days like this. Cup of tea, nice bath, early bed and try again tomorrow like you say!!

@aecpro what a rollercoaster hey! How anyone can go from elated and excited and all of the happy emotions to literally wanting to hide for the rest of the day is beyond me. But that's me! Tbh I don't think people's opinions help much 'ooh it's gonna get worse' and things like that! Oh bless you! Are you staying there and planning to give birth there too? Although I didn't move abroad, I did move with my boyfriend to where he lives and away from my family so I know how the isolation feels. I hope it gets better for you ❤️ uhh yeah I feel okay generally other than the back / rib pain! How about you?

@lettersbyowl think it's the only thing you can do when you feel so rubbish hey! Thankfully OH has been a gem today

@2020firsttimemum Yep it is crazy how quickly it can flip ha! No and as much as it might be true, people telling you its just hormones and not to worry also doesn't help when you are feeling the low points.
Yeah I will be staying here and giving birth here as well, we have been abroad for 5 years now in our second international post so we are fairly settled, also have supportive family already planning their first visits out as well so I know they won't be too far behind the birth. It is hard to be away from family, even if it is only a few hours down the road. Do you have a good friendship network round you? Thankfully aside from some lower back/neck pain I am feeling good and able to be active again which is good.

God yes, everything is upsetting me! Also people sneezing is enraging me. Given that DH has some allergies this is a bad mix

As others said, very happy to be pregnant but it is difficult. I have read progesterone is actually a depressant which might explain it.

All so normal! I have episodes where I cry over the smallest of things and then when I look back I laugh at how ridiculous I was.
Had an full on breakdown once because my charger wire is faulty and wouldn't charge my phone. I threw my phone across the room and sobbed.

Another time I had just made crumpets for breakfast and as I was pulling them out the toaster, one fell off my plate and into the sink. I literally threw myself on the kitchen floor and sobbed my heart out because I was so hungry and didnt want to have to wait another 3 minutes for a new one to cook 😂

Hello, yes just wanted to say I am almost 24 weeks and have been experiencing mood swings which is most unlike me! One day it seems like the world's on top of me and I don't know how I will get everything done before baby arrives (to be fair we are renovating our house and getting married before baby arrives, it was an unexpected pregnancy!), other days I feel on top of the world like wonder woman powering through everything and like everything's going fantastic 🤣 and it can be literally down one day up the next! I've had about four or five good days so enjoying that, I ended up having a massive barny with DP last week on a down day about how scared I am about baby and how stressed about house/ wedding/ work/ baby etc!! He was great though I must say.

We have to go easy on ourselves though OP as this is objectively a crazy time so as others have said take a deep breath, be aware it may be the hormones, nice relaxing bath and early night!

(Doesn't help that I haven't had a bathroom for the past fortnight so that bath's been out of the question 🤣)

I'm so glad I'm not the only one and hearing some of your crazy stories does make me laugh! (With you and not at you all obviously)

I thought I'd be one of those people that enjoyed pregnancy, and I've been lucky with not being sick etc so probably have no real 'reason' to feel as miserable as I do. I've always wanted two kids but right now I'm struggling my way through one.

Never been this emotional, but crying is currently a daily occurrence and I'll be glad when he's out!

We're all in this together :)