Pregnant fiance doesn't love me any more

[forestry268]

Hello all. First time poster here, just want to share my story and hear if anyone else has any experiences similar to what's happening with me.

Very long story short, myself (31M) and my (ex) fiance (25F) broke up after she told me she doesn't love me any more. She's pregnant too after trying for a baby together late last year. I don't know why, what changed, how she ever felt about me or really anything like that. I suppose it doesn't matter in the long run. All I want is for her and our baby to be happy, so I'm doing everything I can to make sure that happens.

I'm not dealing with the break up well at all. I worry that when the baby arrives I'll subconsciously get back at her and undermine her as a mother. I'm also worried I'll break before the baby gets here. It's so painful. I can't get over her really as I've got to be there for the baby. And with that, there's all the rejection, confusion, heartbreak...I just don't know what I did, or didn't do, or what changed.

Please has anyone got any advise on this? I'm trying so hard but I'm scared I'll fail. Thank you all so much.

She’s lucky to have you, pregnancy is a hard on women emotionally and physically don’t run after her give her space. She will come to you when she needs you most women hate their other half’s when they are pregnant don’t take it personally. Would take what she’s saying with a pinch of salt, just give her space she’s unwell

@ahsan Thank you so much. I've been giving her space, just checking in via text really, letting her know I'm here if there's anything she needs. When she broke up with me she made me leave the house we were sharing so I've not been around at all in that time. I saw her for the first time in a month the other day to take her to a family gathering - she was ok with me but all the love and affection was just gone - I explained that I still love her and she just responded with 'still?'. Stuff like that makes it hard. I'll keep on trying for sure.

I actually broke up with my dh.

Pregnancy hormones made me so irrational, I actually broke up with him.

Luckily for me, he stayed by as a friend and helped me when I still being violently sick, and helped clean the house.

I realised I made a massive fuck up and he very luckily took me back.

I have never forgiven myself for it.

Support her for what she wants. She may change her mind again

@soubriquet I'm sorry to hear you had such a hard time during it. Over the past month I've been reading so much to try and understand the pregnancy process. I can never even hope to properly get it of course, but I'm trying. I'm just focusing on exactly what you've said. Being there for her, and preparing to be a good dad. I'm taking her to the 20 week scan too. I suppose it doesn't matter in our case if she takes me back, although of course I want her to - I just hope I can deal with everything. I'm seeing a councilor too, hopefully that will help.