How to accept pregnancy after losses

[whatamidoing4]

I've lost two pregnancies in a row both the day I hit five weeks, so this time I didn't test until past the 5 weeks as I thought it would be easier to handle, I've now past the 5 weeks (only by 2 days) but I'm scared to get my hopes up I think, how has anyone else felt with this? Or any advice ?

Thank you xx

I don’t know but I’m with you. Had a loss at 5+3 last November (and honestly wasn’t that surprised as I just felt it wasn’t going to stick from the start) just had BFP yesterday and trying not to be terrified of another loss. I’m still really early too. I think it’s just taking one day at a time, hoping for the best but preparing for the worst?

It's perfectly understandable to feel this way. I had 2 early losses last year (each at around 5-6 weeks). Then in the next month after the second MC I got pregnant again, currently 25 weeks and all looking good! Definitely I felt even more paranoid in those early weeks than I would have otherwise. You can't do anything really other than to take one day at a time. Be hopeful and good luck!

@whatamidoing4 totally totally reasonable and normal, and it's a known phenomena in people in our shoes. I know I've been feeling that way after also having a MMC, and being in early pregnancy now. Personally I think it'll just take time - as I get further through this pregnancy (I'm 8 weeks) it starts to feel more real, but I don't think I'll fully accept it until 12 weeks. Or maybe even later. But tbh I don't think that's a problem, it'll take as long as it takes, you've got time. Look after yourself, it'll be enough of a rollercoaster without you beating yourself up too.⁣
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There's a group here you might want to join - pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows (now on thread 2), it's all people in your situation and detachment has come up a few times - you're not alone.

You are not alone...I had 2 MC then got pregnant with my now 3 year old son....all through the pregnancy I was worried...wouldn't buy any maternity clothes even as I thought that would trigger something bad happening! I even bought a very impractical 2 door car as I figured i wouldn't actually ever need a practical car as I was convinced the pregnancy wouldn't last.
I was extreme!
I think my advice would be to take each day at a time.