1st trimester worries

[Danielle95lab]

Morning everyone, Im just looking for some reassurance really or some words of wisdom. My anxiety is through the roof. I'm 6 weeks today and just full of worry. I have an early scan next Wednesday and can't help but feel like something bad is going to happen. I know it's not a great way to think but I'm struggling so much with keeping positive.

I seem to have got worse since I had a bit of brown discharge last week. I literally had it one time and it was the tiniest bit ever. The EPU didn't seem worried at all as I didn't have cramping etc and no more after that. Now I have my normal pregnancy white discharge.

However i just don't feel pregnant. I have slightly tender boobs which come and go. Some days I have lower backache and other days I'm exhausted. I'm also a bit emotional when watching some TV shows (usually I'm made of stone) but apart from that I feel completely normal.

I'm so scared and I dunno how to get over the anxiety 😩

I was literally the same! Seriously do not worry I promise you! I'm now 21weeks with a little boy and look back at how anxious I was and cringe! There's nothing to be anxious about. Xx

I'm the same! I'm so worried. In week seven and have an early scan next week too. My only advice to you is to do stuff you love and just try and keep yourself busy (but not too busy). I love true crime docs, so I'm watching them on Netflix atm. Keeps my mind busy with something else. Be careful with the anxiety. In my first pregnancy I was so worried it made me sick - literally.

@grace1991 @sibbys thank you both so much! Funnily enough I only found out I was pregnant because I was due to go on anxiety medication (ones you can't use when pregnant) so I've always had this struggle it's just now focused on my pregnancy instead of other things.

You're right though, need to try put it out my mind. Never wanted to get morning sickness so much in my life 😂xx

https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php

Have you seen this? It's data on miscarriage presented in a really reassuring way. I've found it helpful, I'm 5 weeks with my second.

Try not to worry too much as it won't help. My Mum had barely any symptoms with my brother and me, and she had perfectly normal pregnancies and we were both born happy & healthy. Do not wish for sickness, it's the worst! I can barely eat anything I like anymore and I just constantly feel nauseous, I would rather feel like you! All women experience different symptoms so count yourself as one of the lucky ones!

I think everyone is the same on their first time, you don't quite believe you can do it! But you can and will. Just remember that your worrying is not going to change any outcome whether good or bad. It might be useful to think through what exactly you are worried about. How likely is it to happen? How would you handle it if it did happen? It's hard to stop worrying but it's the best thing you can try to do for baby

I was exactly the same and paid for private scans week 6 and week 10. I'm now 16 weeks and I think the wait from week 12 to week 20 is far worse.
I look back now and wonder what I worried about so just try and find ways to relax or your whole pregnancy youll be stressed

@KittyKat2020 thanks for responding! I've had an early scan booked in for ages next Wednesday when I'm 7 weeks. But they just rang and said it might be best to push it back a few days incase the scan is inconclusive. Was yours ok at 6 weeks? A bit torn with what to do now x

@Danielle95lab Yes at 6 weeks baby was a lump in a yolk sac but we did hear the heartbeat which was very reassuring.
I just am definitely more stressed now, I have my 16 week appointment this afternoon but dopplers can be hard to find the heartbeat so thatll stress me out more. I just cant keep paying out for private scans and the other half wont let me so I've got to ride it out and hope baby is okay.

Hi, I know how you feel. I found out at 3weeks+5, and was an absolute wreck. First ever pregnancy, Googled far too much, read things I didn’t need to know etc .
I had a scan at 7 weeks 6 days and it was like a little sea horse , I had one at 10 weeks after having sepsis , and one on Monday at 14 weeks 3 days. Everything was perfect each time and it gets a bit easier each time but I know I’ll feel anxious until I feel baby move. I think this is what the rest of our lives will be ! Natural motherhood worries !
Please try and enjoy it because otherwise you’ll become so unhappy . I was miserable from 4 weeks til 12 then I started to relax more and I feel better for it !

Congrats and welcome to the biggest journey ever !

This was my 7 week 6 day scan

I'm 5 weeks tomorrow and feel a bit anxious. I kept worrying that I'm overdoing it at work, my job is quite physical as I teach fitness classes, and also children's dance classes every day. Some days i end up with quite uncomfortable cramps and backache... do you think i need to ease up a bit? Or is that normal?
It's my first and I'm just so worried, got an early scan in 2 and a half weeks and I keep telling myself I'll relax once i see it's all ok.

I have been the same. Meditation eased it a bit as did thinking about the worst that could happen & how I would deal with that. I'm 5+2 now and had a HCG test yesterday that reassured me somewhat.

@Emelene that data calculator is so reassuring! Thank you

Just to update. I’ve been to my 16 week appointment just and the Doppler picked baby up straight away so I’m reassured for a bit. Who knows for how long lol

@Danielle95lab I am right there with you on the anxiety front. So far, purposefully keeping busy and keeping my mind occupied with other things is somewhat helping. Have never been more thankful for other stressful rubbish in my life!

@Emelene thank you for that data, very reassuring 😘

Thanks everyone for the encouragement you're all bloody amazing!! Fingers crossed things are okay, I've just had a bit of work drama so I think that will take my mind off this for a bit.

Not really a believe in meditation and stuff but honestly thinking of trying it😂xxx

I'm 6 weeks today too and my symptoms are exactly like yours! Everyone is different and some people get symptoms some people don't. Keeping relaxed is important try not to stress. What will be will be. Xxxx

I was soooo worried when I was that early on. Could never settle cos I was so paranoid about something going wrong. I didn't have any symptoms other than sore boobs. I'm 15 weeks now. Still worry but you've just kinda get used of not knowing what's going on in there x