Husband has cheated, I’m 38 weeks pregnant

[AustenN]

I found a hotel receipt for 8.30pm one evening and now know that my husband had booked a room for him and another woman. He was supposed to be at a work event. He says they kissed, went to the room but they didn’t take things any further as felt guilty and left. I have told him we need to separate but he is still living in the house because baby is due any day now.

I am devastated- I just keep crying, I don’t know if I can get through this or whether I’ve made the right decision to end things. Does anyone have some words of encouragement or similar stories they can share to help me through this please?

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My husband cheated on me. I found text messages and really explicit photos on messages to and from someone he used to work with. They were no longer working together when I discovered the affair. He always denied that anything happened in person, only over the phone. I still don't believe him. I was going through some really stressful events at the time (deciding whether or not to report historic abuse to the police) and this made it worse, at a time when I was most vulnerable and he should have been by my side.

I decided to try and work it out. I wasn't going to let her spoil what we had. We went to relate which helped. I guess it depends how much he is willing to work through what happened and how it made you feel.

4 years later things are better, but my husband still struggles to talk about it as he is devastated he caused me so much pain.

It is possible to work through it but only if both parties are willing to be honest and face it together. It's got to be something you both want. And you need space to work our what you want and how you feel.

Watching this Ted Talk really helped me.

I am sending you so much love and support right now xxx

He is lying to you OP. I’m sorry. He didn’t pay for a hotel room to go have a kiss. He didn’t get the attack of the guilts. People like him don’t feel emotions like guilt. I’d get my ducks in a row if I were you

So sorry to hear this I've been through the same, it will take time but you will get through this emotionally one day at a time.

I was 32 weeks pregnant and I decided to end things, we did rekindle our relationship after I'd left the house but things arnt great now.

My advice would be leave and don't go back. I know it's hard and you are having a baby but he should have thought about that before betraying you like that.

You will become stronger from this, but if you stay with him that trust won't be there and you will be unhappy in the long run.

This is so sad OP. I don't know the full situation to go as far as saying "he's lying" but I do agree he can't feel guilt to share a hotel with another woman when you are at home pregnant. I don't think you can work through this right now as it's a massive betrayal. You need to separate and process what has happened and make him realise what he's lost for just one night of fun.