Pregnant sex...anyone else's DH/DP not putting out?!

[PregnantGrrrl]

Is anyone else experiencing a drought in the sex dept at the moment? DH hasn't been near me in about 7wks now...well, he has for a quick snog / occasional bum squeeze, but nothing more. I asked him if it's because i'm pregnant, incase he was worried about the baby in some sweet-but-daft way, and his response was 'no, not really...'

I think it's because i'm a big fattie right now

I'm not even especially in the mood all the time, but i don't want us to end up one of those couples who've forgotten what it feels like.

Hi with my first pregnancy DP wouldn't come near me once i started to show and he was obviously glad when i had a small bleed at 22wks and sex was banned! (Glad for ban) so we had no sex from then until DS was about 2 months. I'm currently 38+4 and no sex for 3 wks. DP has been better this pregnancy but now i want to use sex to induce labour he's not having any of it!

I think it's fairly common for DP to feel weird about it but i completely understand how it makes you feel. I felt like DP was repulsed by my pregnant body and really unloved. You could try telling DP how it feels to be rejected and maybe suggest a massage with no commitment and see where it leads?

with my first pregnancy he actually thought you weren't allowed to have sex- which was quite sweet really!

we're not exactly a rampant couple anyway, but it's been bloody ages now.

perhaps i'll try coaxing him on the weekend

It hasn't put my DP off at all!! It's a good thing, but sometimes (i.e. most of the time) i'm just not in the mood!

I've got the opposite problem - my pregnancy has mad DH frisky as hell (weird, IMO...) but on my list of things I'd like to do of an evening it's at about number 367... and a long way behind a nice cup of horlicks and another episode of CSI...

'Bob' (my 5ft pregnancy pillow) is by far a better and less demanding bed-fellow at the moment. At a point DH started to complain that there wasn't wnough room in our bed for the three of us, until I pointed out that it wouldn't be me or Bob in the spare room...

Man, I'm a b*tch when pregnant... think DH is reconsidering his plans for siring a rugby 7s team of his very own...

DB
xx

I'm in the same situation as you db, its the last thing I feel like, and I too have a bob DH has been away the past week, and is due back on saturday, I have had some good sleep whilst he has been away, and its nice not having to keep fobbing him off all the time

My dp wouldnt "do it" when i was pg either. It made me feel really low, whale like, unloved and definitely not in the slightest sexy. I was miserable because he wasnt interested. We discussed it and he said it kind of gave him the creeps, that he would be so close to the baby. I can see his point but i wanted to "do it" all the same.

Even after the baby arrived there was a drought but then it was my doing at that point. Bleeding, soreness and very tired, looked like a tramp most of the time because of grabbing sleep whenever possible.

Is all back to normal now and was about 6months after the birth that we started a normal relationship again.

Probobly not what you want to hear, but is all good i the end - its just a long time comming.

mine has been scared off since the 12 week scan! Managed it once since then but it still weirded him out I think (I'm 25+4 now)

Does make me feel unsexy altough I'm not even sure I want sex myself, and I know he loves me... he just feels like there's 3 of us involved!! Also in honesty I don't think my new bifta physique really does it for him.

You kind of can't force it I guess. I still demand cuddles etc and he looks after me well... its just a bit strange putting that part of your relationship on hold, and I hope it's not forever!

Sure we'll rediscover the whole sex thing.. in a year or so...

Nice to read this thread, most of the time sounds like all other pg women are fighting them off with sticks! (sigh)

still nothing my end...literally.

I've got the same problem as Designerbaby - DH was very frisky beforehand, but since I got pregnant he's been absolutely bonkers - he has the sex drive of a 14 year old boy! Apparently its something to do with how my skin has changed or something .

Unfortunately I'm really not in the mood at all, or at least not as much as he is! In my mind once a week is fine, but DH wants it about 3 times a day! Thankfully we both see the funny side of it (as it were) and compromise on occasion

I told him about this thread, and he made leering comments about doing a swap of some kind

Bless him