Attending wedding at 39 weeks?

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Hi all
One of my good friends is getting married when I will be just on 39 weeks pregnant / end of 38 weeks depending whether you believe the scan date or when I ovulated.
I really want to go, but is this unrealistic?
It's in London and I live up in Buckinghamshire. So it isn't that far away and will just be an afternoon and evening thing.
This is my first time being pregnant so don't know how I will feel.
Any advice? Should I RSVP and hope for best or opt out early?
Thanks x

Btw I am fit and healthy, assuming pregnancy will continue to be low risk etc x

Speak to your friend and ask if she'd be ok with you RSVP'ing yes and then possibly not being able to make it. That's really the main thing as dependent on the type of wedding there is a cost per head, and it's whether she'd be happy with that.

I went to one at 40+3, just the evening and it was thirty mins from home. I managed a couple of hours, but thanks to swollen feet and a bump that was defying gravity I was glad to head home and get into bed. Everyone is different though on what they can manage at that stage

I would speak to your friend. She might not mind that you say yes then at the last minute need to drop out.

Would you be going with a partner? They would have to be on driving duty.

I attended a wedding 10 days before I was due and DS came a week later.
Colleague at work went to her sister's wedding at 37 weeks and baby came that night, she was 100 miles from home. All was fine.
It depends on how close you are to the couple and how important it is that you go.

I went to my best friends wedding at 36 weeks (I was being induced at 37 weeks). Worst thing was trying to find something to wear.

Do as the PP's have suggested and talk to your friend.

If it's close to home and your friend doesn't mind you potentially dropping out then I'd say go for it!!

Doable but you need to remain flexible & plan ahead. You may have baby early, in which case you’d need to cancel obviously. You may feel nearer the time you are too uncomfortable to travel a long way or spend the day on your feet & socialising at a wedding. I’m nearly 38 weeks & I’m so tired & uncomfortable that I don’t think I could do a wedding! I struggle just getting my trainers on & going for a short stroll! Went out for dinner with friends last week & I was wiped from just sitting at table nattering! 🙈

Equally, you may feel fine & happy to attend. If so, make sure you have researched hospitals local to the wedding just in case. Always better to be prepared & not panicking! Have your notes & hospital bags with you in the car.

I assume your friend knows you’ll be almost at the giving birth point & your attendance is up in the air? If not, talk to her & see if it is OK to have you as a maybe..?

Being that it's a good friend's wedding I would assume they already know you are close to your due date and will understand if you fail to arrive, or have to leave early.

I went to my cousin's wedding at 41 weeks and the baby wasn't born for another 3 days. Danced a bit and had a great time, but had the hospital bag in the car just in case. This was my first so in the same situation and I suggest if you feel OK, then why not?

All the best, hope all goes smoothly and you enjoy the wedding. ;-)

I went to my own wedding at 29 weeks and he was born a week later! Completely unexpected, it's a good job he waited that extra week lol
Realistically you don't know what's going to happen, you may have already had the baby by then. I'm sure your friend will be understanding if you RSVP yes but then have to change it, you're having a baby!

Hey everyone! Thanks so much for your replies. I've checked with my friend and she's happy for me to do a tentative yes for now as see how it goes :) so that's good. Would like to attend but who knows how il be feeling or if baby will be early! X