Boyfriend Distant

[Razpoot]

Hi all, I hope this works as I have tried posting before on data and it wasn't showing it as posting, tried 3 times before I realised it posted each time I tried, then they got deleted for spam! Embarrassing!

I am 20 weeks now, and my boyfriend has cut all sexual interest in me since finding out I'm pregnant. He used to be very eager to be all over me. He would always compliment me on my body and show great attraction. Now, over the course of the whole pregnancy he doesn't want anything at all. He kisses me and hugs me and is generally kind (except never gives massages!) But has zero interest in sex, he wont even touch me in the same way. Yet he has no problem watching porn of perfect skinny women when he can.

What should I do, or even think? It makes me feel rejected and depressed especially now that I'm starting to really show. He says he's too tired, and gets angry at me for asking, saying I don't have the right to be so needy. We had a big argument over it and he understands how it makes me feel yet nothing changes. I feel so unloved.

It might not be personal - he might be actually too tired, stressed with work etc, or he might have a funny idea that you're too fragile or it'll hurt the baby. Why not try talking about it in the daytime (I mean not in the bedroom). Have a nice calm chat that starts with asking how he's feeling about it.
I've been there (when not pregnant). My husband was depressed about work. I went about it the wrong way at first, thinking it was all about me and our relationship, cried and tantrummed, but actually talking calmly is what helped solve the problem

Ps the porn thing is a red herring. People can be too tired or depressed for sex but still pleasure themselves or watch porn. It's different.

My husband is very similar, but without the porn. We had a few scares of bleeding (and I still am every few days!) :( but he's scared of hurting me, he says. And I believe him because that what he's like. He'll still cuddle and kiss me but he feels like if anything happened it would be his fault.

We still have sex, just nowhere near as frequent as pre-preg