7 wks + but no heartbeat on US

[katendmom]

How can a wonderful news turn so bad so fast? Just a few weeks ago we found out that we are expecting. It came as a wonderful surprise since we have a 19 mnth old and were not planning to get pregnant just yet.

I had my first US done yesterday. According to my calculations, I should be about 8 wks 3 days. The ultrasound showed the sac, the baby but no heartbeat... the baby also measured at about 7 wks and like 5 days...

The doctor pretty much told me "this is it." I am scheduled for a repeat US next week but she told me that I really don't have a chance at this point. She said that it's either a natural ms or D&C.

My husband and I are heartbroken... Is there anybody out there who had a similar experience with their first us and things turned out for the best after that?

I guess we should be thankful for our wonderful baby boy but we so got ourselves thinking that he is going to have a little brother or sister...

i think thatt by 7 weeks they expect to see a hb, i had a mc at 6 and a half weeks and there was no hb they said that as the baby was bigger then 6mm there was no chance as this is the cut off point. they didnt bother to rescan. im sorry youve had such bad news but i suppose you never do know! at least they want to rescan you xx

I'm so sorry. If it is any consolation, I had a very early mc in between my DS1 and DS2. I got pregnant again quite quickly afterwards and, as I say, have a wonderful DS2 (and a subsequent wonderful DS3).

All the best. I know it hurts a lot, even though you have a wonderful son already. I was quite shocked at how much I grieved.

Thank you Dinosaur...believe it or not - when we found out about this pregnancy, we decided that it was it for us. Two children would be plenty... but now... if things do turn out for the worst (I am still hoping that my weeks are off and that our baby will pull it off) ~ we'd give it another chance. Do you know if there is a recommended "wait period" before starting to try again?

we had decided that 2 were enought for us as well, but then after falling pg accidently and losing it we decided to go for it again, i fell after my 1st af and have just reached 12 weeks. i was told different things on how long to wait, apparently there is no reason to wait at all and you can start as soon as you stop bleeding. some docs recomend waiting for one af so the new pg can be dated and one dr told me that the new advice is 3 mths. we didnt wait and its begining to look like its worked out.

i think its when you feel ready physically and mentally xx

Good to know, thank you. Unfortunately today is shaping up to be a bad day. I have a really bad migraine (which I usually do not get when I am pregnant) and because I am still SO hopeful... crazy me... I am not taking my migraine medications (which I shouldn't/ can't take if I am pregnant because it's very strong and will harm the baby)...

But to make things worse... I think I am starting to cramp. It's very mild... I'd say maybe only 1 on a scale of 10 but since I have not had any sensations before... and coupled with the prognosis that I got after my US... I am starting to think that the miracle won't happen...

I'm scared now since I am home alone (my husband went to work) in case I am starting to ms and the pain will get bad... I am being a chicken now. Sorry for dumping it all on you guys!

Oh God, I am so sorry for how things have turned out for you. I cant relate to you, but it must be so, so awful. A friend of mine lost a baby at 6 weeks, just after her first child. And a few months later she got pregnant and had a little girl. She is sorry she lost the baby, but knows that she wouldnt have her little girl if she hadnt los it. I know its awful, and cruel, but things will be ok in the end.