11 weeks pregnant, and hating it! Help!

[Gemma0711]

Hi everyone!

So yeah...I'm 11 weeks pregnant today and an thoroughly miserable! I feel absolutely horrendous, and I just wanted to know I'm not alone really. Because it feels so lonely right now 😕

I've been lucky, in that I haven't been really badly sick since 6 weeks (I was sick from conception to 6 weeks) but I feel so nauseas, and am absolutely shattered. I'm starving hungry all the time, but there is nothing I want to eat, and in the last week I've had to sleep 13 hours a day, otherwise i literally fall asleep whilst trying to eat etc.

I feel drained, tired, not like me at all! In the last week migraines have started to creep in too which isnt helping. But I just feel really really low. I dont really get to spend much time with my husband because I'm exhausted, I'm trying to set up a business at home but I'm barely getting anything done, and I'm too ill to even drive to see a friend. I just cant function.

I dont mean to moan, I'm incredibly grateful to be pregnant especially after I lost my first one before Christmas...But I hate it!! And I'm really worried I'm getting depressed.

Can anyone recommend anything that might make things a bit easier? Theres no point in me phoning a doctor right, because this is all normal?

Thanks everyone!

Hey man, yeah same! I miscarried last year so part of me was relieved to feel like shit but it's been really hard. I've been in pain all over, can't sleep but am exhausted, headaches, muscle pains, back ache....

But! I'm 12+1 now and feel quite a bit better. Still exhausted but it's not as bad. Placenta has taken over now. I've just had my scan too and it's all ok.

So hopefully you should be over the worst of it really soon!

I think the first trimester is the hardest part of pregnancy. Currently on my fourth and I'd forgotten how rubbish you can feel... I would say you are so nearly out of the woods. Most people start to feel a lot better by 12 weeks +
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@anotherypasswordtoremember

I'm sorry you've had the same problem! And I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriage! I'm so glad everything was ok for you in your scan 😊 My scan isnt for 12 days and it feels like forever away lol!!

I'm really relieved to hear you're feeling better! Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope I'm the same in a week or so too...I so desperately wanted a baby and was distraught when I lost the last one....This time I'm starting to wonder why I ever thought this was a good idea 🙄

@EllieRay Aww number 4 congrats!!!

Thank you, that's very encouraging! I really hope it gets better. I dont know how people hold down a job through this, I really don't! My sister in law was swimming 5k a day In her first trimester. I used to row 6k a day before pregnancy and tried to just do some gentle exercise on my bike for 30 mins the other day, and then had to sleep for 4 hours! I feel like such a failure 😑

Not a failure. You're growing a whole new human being and it's hard work. Lots of people feel absolutely wiped out in early pregnancy, it's completely normal.

I was never really sick in any of my pregnancies but had constant nausea, which in some ways was worse I think. It eased up by about 15/16 weeks both time around though. The second trimester is a vast improvement on the first!

I feel the same, i’m 10+4! It’s hard work isn't it! Hopefully we will both start to feel a bit better soon. I have good days and bad days. I think we just need to cut ourselves some slack, rest up and not worry about not being as productive as normal- we are growing life after all!!

I'm exactly the same so don't worry. I'm nearly 12 weeks and I've been incredibly nauseous since week 6 (constantly, from the moment I wake until I sleep), and exhausted. Also easily sleeping 12+ hrs a day when I get the chance. I slipped into what felt like emotional numbness/depression, having no interest in the baby, my partner, my life. It's been pretty miserable so far. My dr said it's normal. But! I had a scan last week and all looks good and I actually found myself getting a bit excited.

I used to exercise a lot too, and I've done nothing for months and I'm eating badly. All in all, it's been rubbish.

Keep going and take it day by day. Listen to you body and don't push yourself. I found getting out just for a walk and a coffee helped me a bit. If your emotions get worse then definitely speak to your doctor - I'm on antidepressants from a previous bout of depression and I darent come off them now given how I've felt recently.

Wishing you lots of luck

I feel ya! Super happy to be pregnant but maaaaan it's been hard so far. Just going into my 14th week and still feeling grotty.

@LBOCS2 Thank you! That's made me feel a bit better! It is just soooo hard. I can barely move!

The constant nausea is awful isnt it? I find all food completely repulsive. Like, there is nothing at all that I want to eat 😑 And then when I do eat, I feel like I'm going to be sick constantly. AND if I eat something my body doesnt want, I literally can't swallow it, and if I do I'm sick. Its ridiculous! This week I am basically surviving on mashed potato 🤷‍♀️

Thank you for giving me some hope lol. I hope that things improve for me as they did for you! I keep counting down until the second trimester lol. 1 week to 12 weeks 😬

Ugh the first trimester sucks doesn't it? You're definitely not alone. I hated it and told my OH repeatedly that pregnancy just wasn't for me and not to expect anymore!

I'm 16+1 now and can't say exactly when it got easier but all of a sudden, things just aren't as awful anymore! Hang on in there!

Second trimester is the best and your almost there. I think you have to accept being tired for a while and when you feel crappy put your pjs on and relax. Around 14 weeks I started to feel back to almost normal

@OrDis I'm sorry your at this point too. I think you're right, we do need to cut ourselves some slack. I think it's just hard when other people breeze through it lol!

It is very hard work, and I know I definitely need to stop comparing myself to other people 😑 I hope it passes for you too! Not long until the scans now ❤

I’m 11+1 today. I am so tired all the time. I’ve always struggled with exhaustion but it’s so bad now. I fell asleep in the theatre in London and I have never done that before. I was just the same whilst pregnant with DD. Unable to keep my eyes open for even a minute longer than I had to.

I also have no appetite at all.

I think the first trimester sucks because you feel like crap most of the time but people don’t really know you’re pregnant so you can’t even whinge about how much it sucks. You’re also so grateful to be pregnant (I know I am after an EMC and TTC for over a year) that you don’t want to whinge but you’re miserable.

It gets better.

I recommend to want for the second trimester. It was the best time during my both pregnancies. Do you have anyone who can help and support you? Don't hesitate to ask for help. The pregnant women are in need of care. Don't worry and try to concentrate on your baby. The thoughts about my children made me stronger. Good luck!

@aneliese Aww I'm sorry you've had it rough too. You sound really similar to me! That's exactly how I'm feeling. I've been on antidepressants in the past but I'm desperately trying to refrain (not because I dont want to take them, but because i have a terrible time coming on and off medications!). I am worried about post natal depression though so I'll have to keep an eye on that.
I'm glad your scan went well and cheered you up! That's really encouraging 😊 I think taking it day by day is great advice. Thank you! I'm sorry you're suffering but it is some comfort to me to know I'm not alone with it!

I was the same untill 16 weeks this is baby no 3 and by far the most difficult .was sick constantly for weeks horrendous migraines exhaustion and emotional .
It does get better though I felt great from 16 weeks to 28 I'm ,34 weeks now and I'm just huge and fed up congratulations on your pregnancy op

@Melanie7788 Thank you!! I'm trying to hang on in there until the second trimester.

My Husband has been looking after me but I'm finding it a bit hard to talk to him. Although we're both really used to talking about our emotions, hes very much a positive thinker (which is great!) And just says "you'll be ok, keep going"...I kind of feel like I need a bit more than "you'll be fine" right now lol, but I know hes doing his best. Hes been helping me cook (he usually does anyway) and making sure I have jug of water by the bed and some fruit in case I get hungry in the night, so hes doing a great job. He just cant cope with seeing me so low and doesnt really know what's best to do. To be honest neither do I 😂😂😭

@Gemma0711 I could have written your post word for word!
I'm 11+2 and feel absolutely dreadful, so tired and the nausea is terrible, constantly hungry but there's just nothing I want to eat.

I fee miserable because I'm tired and feel sorry for my husband!
Really hoping I pick up soon

It does get better! I felt just like you until about 16 weeks but then I did feel better, I’m now 22 weeks and living a normal life! One thing I regret is I didn’t take more time off work when I felt crap, I kept trying to go on. In hindsight I should have just taken the whole of that time off and only gone back when I truly felt better

I'm about 11 weeks now and feel awful. Nausea, vomiting, constantly tired. Feeling low and weepy but I think it's from boredom/frustration. Not enjoying food at all atm I just eat cos I have to and it's all boring. Need to sleep loads. I know my partner is frustrated with me as well.

You are not alone! 1st trimester sucks. I’m nearly 9 weeks, and started feeling exhausted and sick from about 4 weeks. I’ve been feeling down most of the time the last two weeks. I really can’t wait for this trimester to be over!

Honestly the first 12 weeks are not fun!!! But it does get so much easier once you get into the second trimester and the nausea etc lifts!

I’m 11+1 today and my god, my skins has never broken out so bad, I have bags under my eyes so bad that I look like I have a black eye! I have been so so sick since 6W, defiantly not feeling so sick anymore but the headaches and how tired I am is awful, luckily I can’t work because of coronavirus I don’t know how I would of coped for the past 10 weeks, I get tired doing the tiniest thing. Is anyone else feeling the same? Does it get better😢😢

I felt awful in the first trimester of both pregnancies. But it improved at 12 weeks and from 16 weeks untill my bump got big I felt back to normal. Still in that stage this time at 20 weeks. The last few weeks of pregnancy are very uncomfortable but in my opinion nothing compared to the hell of the first trimester!