Irrational fears before birth

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Did anyone else have any irrational fears before their baby being born ie them being sick stillborn etc I know it's so negative but I can't stop thinking about the worst . Would I know if he's okay by the scans ? Everything has been fine by the scans ? Could I still be in for a shock when he's born the thought of it cripples me

Hi, I think it’s pretty normal to feel like this. During my last pregnancy I was consumed with worry and I too went from one fear to another. The root cause for mine was because of a loss the previous year.
I’d tick one concern off and then start to think about another.
Right up to the minute she was born. The night before (it was a planned section) I was terrified about the safety of the surgery and then whether or not she would be born healthy.
I think it’s because we feel quite out of control when we are pregnant and for all the positive stories you here there are as many negatives. It’s a huge deal, our bodies are going through huge changes, we’re making tiny humans - it’s life changing! Chuck in a load of hormones and we’re officially stuffed!
Dare I say it, forums like this don’t help.
My only advice really is to a) remember that people only come on here when there is a problem so to try and remember that there are lots of people who don’t have complications and you are just as likely to be one of those people.
b) try to focus on all the positives of your pregnancy and all the milestones you have achieved so far and c) try to attend an antenatal class to speak to other expectant mums, I bet many will feel the same way and it always helps to talk and d) if it becomes too consuming have a chat with your midwife and see if you can put your mind at rest about the main things you are worried about.

I think it’s perfectly normal but you really do want to enjoy your pregnancy and look forward to meeting your little one. It’s natural as a Mum to worry, we’re hard wired to do it.
My eldest is 5 and it doesn’t go away but it’s only because we care and love them so much. Try to be kind to yourself - sounds like you are going to be an awesome Mum xxx