Found out I'm pregnant....now what.

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I don't really know if this is the best place to put this.. but on Wednesday I found out I was pregnant, it didn't really sink in with me at first, but did with DP he is saying we aren't ready it's to soon and things. But also things that have to change in our life if we decided to keep it. Its starting to sink in now how real all this is. And I'm really worried because I don't know what to expect ( yes I know all new parents are the same ). I'm didn't really want to have an abortion because I know I would feel so guilty about it, but at the same time don't see how we can keep the baby because we don't have any financial support. I think I worked it out to being about 4/5 weeks pregnant.

Please can someone offer any sort of advice or similar situations, I just can't stop thinking about all this and crying, it's to much to take in and work out what to do best. Sorry if it doesn't make to much sense.

You've got time to work it all out.

For now, go and buy Pregnacare or Seven Seas Pregnancy vitamins and take one every day.
Phone the doctors and ask to make a booking appointment with the MW. You can cancel if you need to - it won't be for a few weeks

How long have you and DP been together?
Do you live together?
Had you discussed having children previously?
Are you financially stable?
Could you afford to go it alone if you had to?
Do you want children?
Can you afford nursery fees etc if you go back to work?

Honestly it's an extremely scary thought even when a baby is all that you want , it's a huge shock but a massive massive blessing, I truly believe baby's come along when they're supposed to , you and your partner have each other and sometimes that's all you need , you have lots of time to sort things out and financial support can be arranged from the government , but for now take your vitamins see a midwife , and discuss through your options together / with a. Doctors xxx

We have been together for a few years, we do live together but not at all financially stable, I cant afford it if I was on my own or still with DP but he has promised to stand by me every step of the way with whichever I decided, we did talk about children and always said not now but maybe in a few years.

I'm on my own for the next few nights but I'm just laying here crying, I don't know what's going to happen ( either way ) or what I should pick for the best, it's so hard.

Do you think you're emotionally ready for a baby? Do you think your relationship is in the right place? Do you actually want a baby at the moment?