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whoruntheworld9 · 26/02/2020 23:51

I'm a 28 year old single woman. I'm a home owner and I have a decent full time job & career. I was dating a guy for a few months when I unexpectedly fell pregnant. I found out after we split.

I've always wanted to be a mum but knew this wasn't the right time. Financially, I'm on my own, my family live over 70 miles away and I don't know anyone where i live for support.

I therefore made the heart wrenching decision to have a termination at 7+5. I've since found out in the last week that my termination failed and I'm now 18 weeks pregnant.

I'm yet to have a scan to find out what's happening but I'm preparing myself mentally to see a healthy baby on the scan screen and what I'm going to do. I really don't think I could terminate a growing healthy baby at this stage. It was hard enough the first time.

I don't know how to tell my family or how I'd deal with their reaction, I have absolutely no plans whatsoever of telling my ex (he was a foul person and not the person I'd want around my child - trust me on this) and I'm in full blown panic mode about childcare solutions when I'm back from mat leave.

I don't know what to do. I need ALL of the advice about how I'm going to handle this and how to tell my mum. This is so difficult.

Can I be a single mum? Is it so bad?

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Amberb82 · 27/02/2020 08:17

Didn't want to read and run, unfortunately I have no advice for your specific situation. But I wish you all the best, I'm sure you will figure this out - there are many amazing single mums out there, having a partner doesn't measure YOUR worth as a parent - go with your gut and I'm sure you will make the best decisions for you and the child x

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