Unsure of who the father is

[Hannah003]

Hi everyone I really need some advice on what to do. My due date is the 17th June 2020 I am having a little boy and not 100% sure who the father is. However in September me and my boyfriend broke up we thought it was for good I went back to my ex and he went back to his which we both came clean about moving forward. I had sex with my boyfriend day and night between the 1st and 15th September (Easily 30times), him ejaculating every time. However things ended really bad and I saw my ex on the 24th. We began to have sex but I stopped after about 10 seconds because it just didn’t feel right, he didn’t ejaculate however I know there are small changes of getting pregnant if there if precinct. I’m so stressed i thought my original boyfriend was the dad for months now I’m unsure. I’m 23 weeks any advice?

*precum

Get a dna test. It's the only way you will know for sure.

They are just so expensive prenatal. It’s just the tension I will have to wait for when the baby is born I suppose

One of my DC was due 15th June and categorically conceived from intercourse on 16th September. I know this because it was our second child and DC1 was only just a year old, and we were exhausted and hardly had any sex life. So it could be the first guy. But you should probably do a dna test

There's no way of possibly knowing without a DNA test, no one on here can really tell you any different I'm afraid.
Have you told them both they could potentially be (or not be) the father?

Yes they know. I’m just confused aswell the first day of my last period was the second September but it doesn’t link in anywhere near the pregnancy dates.

If the first day of your period was 2 September then effectively your egg should be released around 14 days later, so 16 September. As far as I am aware sperm can hang around for a few days before dying off unless it finds an egg to fertilise. Therefore, you could have conceived several days before the 16th.

Also, the date of 24th September sounds far too late if you ovulated on 16 September as sperm doesn't hang around for that long.

For example I conceived my daughter on day 9 of my cycle.

Obviously a DNA test will give you the proof and assurance.

congratulations and good luck.

If the story you tell is 100% true (that you had unprotected sex with one of the guys 30 times in two weeks and had sex with the other guy for 10 seconds and he didn't ejaculate - and providing you didn't have sex with anyone else in the meantime) then there's about a 99.99999% chance that the first guy is the father. The chance of falling pregnant from sex where a man doesn't ejaculate is absolutely miniscule, whatever teenage sex ed might tell you.

Side note - did you get a STD test after having unprotected sex?

I can attest to this having used the pull out method many, many times with my husband and not falling pregnant, then falling pregnant pretty much immediately once we started trying. Not that I recommend it as a method of contraception if pregnancy would be a nightmare for you, but it is pretty damn effective...

Yes, I can also attest to the same as blue moon above, using the withdrawal method for many years (16) !! but when we didn't I fell pregnant immediately. Again don't use this as a form of contraception!

This is what I previously thought but my due date suggests the first day of my last period was a lot later so it’s just confusing. Yh I mean I’ve read there’s 4% chance and have confirmed multiple times with him and he didn’t ejaculate so does seem rather unlikely.

No I didn’t, it isn’t something I usually do but I knew Them both very well. I know no excuses!

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP. Please find ways to help you deal with the stress. The baby is most likely the your original boyfriend's but only a DNA test can confirm the father.

WTF peachypetite? What has that got to do with the OP's question?

4% seems awfully high seeing as your chance of getting pregnant in any given month is around 20-30% (if you're young and have no fertility problems) when you're having regular unprotected sex throughout your fertile window. Not sure where you got that stat from but it can't possibly be right.

As I mentioned above we have used the withdrawal method for 16 years, several times a week, and virtually at the moment of ejaculation, from early thirties (and I know I'm very fertile) and never become pregnant. So I think it is highly likely to be the guy you were having plenty of sex with during your fertile window.

I know its easier said than done but try not to worry, I would go and speak to your doctor or other knowledgeable health professional and say exactly as you have said here, hopefully they will reassure you.

My due date is also the 17th June and I conceived on the 24th September. I did LH tests so I know when I ovulated and therefore know when i concieved. Based on dates alone I would say the second guy is the dad. However, dating scans have been known to be wrong so the only way to be sure is a DNA test when baby is born.