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Husband preparing for marathon during pregnancy

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CHope · 21/02/2020 14:48

My DH has been training for the marathon in April. He runs for 3 hours a day. It irks me and maybe it shouldn’t. Baby is coming in 4 weeks. Anyone else’s partner overly distracted. How do you deal?

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AuntieStella · 21/02/2020 17:39

No rest days, and always 3 hours? Doesn't sound as if he's using a terribly good preparation plan.

But if he's wedded to it, then get a good running buggy, and get him to run between feeds with infant, so you can have a bit of time off

Melbs6 · 21/02/2020 18:00

My husband is the same. Not marathon training, but since finding out I’m pregnant he’s decided he’s really into running so goes running everyday for an hour without fail. He has also just signed up to Muay Thai classes too (he is there right now and will be going 3 evenings a week) And he plays golf every weekend in addition to working full time. So I literally never see him anymore so while I have no advice, you have my sympathy!

EstebanTheMagnificent · 21/02/2020 19:05

That is terrible preparation for a marathon and he is heading straight for a stress fracture. Is he definitely running for the whole time?

OrDis · 21/02/2020 19:08

Mines training for an iron man triathlon 🤣🤣 so he’s cycling, swimming or running for hours most days!! The actual tri is about three weeks before my due to date, but I want him to do it because it’s something he was planning before the pregnancy and I feel like this is the best chance he’ll get for a good few years because he’s not going to want to train this hard when a baby arrives 🤣.

MandMand · 21/02/2020 19:16

I'm also training for a marathon in April, and I can assure you that I don't need to run for 3 hours every day. More like an hour to and hour and a half on 3 days during the week, and then a long run of around 3 hours at the weekend. Make sure he knows that once the baby arrives, its going to be all hands on deck, and that he will either need to get up very early to do his runs first thing in the morning before the baby wakes up, or last thing at night once the baby is asleep.

I second the idea of buying a running buggy once the baby is a few months old, so he can take the baby with him on his long runs and give you some time off!

crustycrab · 21/02/2020 19:19

Thread title made me laugh. Had one eye closed when I clicked on it in case he was actually pregnant

WinterCat · 21/02/2020 19:22

Mine did and the marathon was a day after my due date. Luckily I had an ELCS booked.

Quartz2208 · 21/02/2020 19:23

first off 3 hours a day running is insanely stupid and not good marathon prep at all.

Both you and Melbs I think have husbands who need to be talked to about exactly what having a baby means and it doesnt mean disappearing off every night

annlee3817 · 21/02/2020 20:27

Is it definitely three hours a day? None of the marathon training plans would suggest that, usually one long run each week, one short quicker run and then a mid length run and some strength exercises mixed in... The only bit that would take three hours plus is the one long run...

Ask him to get up early and get his run in before you wake up, my DH used to go out around 4.30am on week days and just go to bed early to get a long run in before work. On the weekends if his long run was then he'd go out at around 6am so that it didn't impact our day too much and so that I can then do my long runs too. He's training for a 54 mile run end of march and I would never run as much as your OH is

annlee3817 · 21/02/2020 20:29

Excuse my terrible typing and Grammar on the whole thing... But on that last bit I meant and he would never run as much as your OH is

CoolNoMore · 21/02/2020 20:33

Aw, is there any chance he's a bit anxious, totally unable to do anything and needs something to make him feel in control of one small aspect of his life?! My husband got VERY into climbing while I was pregnant, hanging out with people ten years younger than he was and generally in denial about how much his life was about to change. This was a planned, much wanted baby that we had had to wait for for a while btw, but it was still pretty scary for him. Not that your reaction is unreasonable, of course! He's going to have to sort himself out... but maybe he's in need of some reassurance, rather than a talking-to.

I love the suggestion of a running buggy. He'd better not get injured before the birth!

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 21/02/2020 20:35

I’d be asking wth he is doing for those three hours 😬

megletthesecond · 21/02/2020 20:41

I don't think you can put tiddly babies in running buggies. I've only seen much older babies who are pretty much sitting up at parkrun.

Dozer · 21/02/2020 20:42

What is his plan when the baby actually arrives?

ThanksItHasPockets · 21/02/2020 20:42

Are you absolutely sure that he is being honest with you about how he’s spending that time? I’m afraid I find three hours of running every day really implausible. Elite marathon runners don’t run for that long every day.

JustForTheTasteOfIt · 21/02/2020 20:52

Three hours a day?! That's one of the worst marathon prep plans you could possibly do. He's asking for long term, repeated injuries doing that.

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