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SparkleUK · 18/02/2020 12:01

Just needed somewhere to have a rant, been sat in floods of tears with my OH this morning - anyone in same boat please feel free to join in!

I am bordering on the edge of wanting to shout at everyone due to the constant messages asking for news or developments or asking under the guise of how I am but once it becomes clear that nothing baby related to report, ending the conversation. I feel like I'm just a walking incubator that has something everyone else wants and cares about but me physically doesn't matter! Or that I'm somehow a failure because I can't just pop this baby out (first and I'm not even due until tomorrow!!)

My mum in particular messaged me last night. Another message this morning merely a few hours later asking. When I politely confirmed my OH would tell people once there was news, she then replied sarcastically that she's just concerned as a parent and I'd understand one day, even putting 'case closed' on the end.
I have serious overbearing gran issues to where I need to step back from her to save our son and she also won't stop texting me but nothing of any substance I can even reply to, so I don't, then she messages again hours later.

I'm due to move house next month, trying to sort a legal dispute with the solicitor and my OH starts a new job in a few days that he's not allowed any time off from bar for the birth which they've confirmed, leading me to far more stress and worry about managing on my own all day (also depending on how birth goes) and trying to support him. Not once has anyone genuinely I feel asked how I am or if there's anything I need help with, that to me would be concern, not just asking for news so they can get even more excited about the nice, flowery, cuddling baby side.

This probably doesn't make any sense, just needed to get it out but if you did read the rantings of an emotional, hormonal and fed up lady, thank you! X

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Bookworm83 · 18/02/2020 12:16

Refer them to this website: www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

I'm kind of the opposite; nobody on either side of the family seems to care much. Although I am only 34 weeks so it might change closer to the time. But I totally get your frustration. Would it be an option to just ignore them all (even turn your phone off) and let your OH deal with any questions? X

SparkleUK · 18/02/2020 12:57

I love that website!

It's definitely worth a try but not sure if just not responding would cause them to further excite themselves. I'd kind of set out that my OH would be the one who would be fielding the questions but they just keep bypassing him and coming to me. Hopefully you carry on having a peaceful time! X

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