find it awkward sharing pregnancy

[UrsulaSings]

Does anyone else find it really awkward to tell people you're pregnant?

I'm pregnant after a loss and I feel so awkward telling people and tbh I think if it wasnt weird I just wouldnt mention anything to anyone. It's getting to the point at work where I think I'm going to have to tell my colleagues because its started to become obvious, but I just find other peoples reactions uncomfortable. When I told my manager so I could go to my appointments he hugged me and held my hand which was extremely uncomfortable.

They all know about my previous loss and I just feel like people act happy-sad when you tell them. I'd rather just not have any reaction at all.

How do I mention it in a really low key way that doesnt attract attention or invite big reactions?

I know exactly what you mean, I'm the same! It's strange because it's something that most people want to shout from the rooftops but

I get this too. I haven't had any losses but I hate telling people in person. I just don't mention it unless it's brought up buy someone else. I hate all of the attention and questions it brings. I've only told people close to me in person and everyone else knows via a small Facebook post I did at 16 weeks.

Oops posted too early - but really I'd find it a lot easier if it was just written on my forehead and I didn't have to tell anyone 😂

I feel exactly the same! I don’t want to keep telling people over and over so may just do a facebook post when i am further on.

I told my close friends by text and my mum and dad in person.

I actually told my partner by text as well lol it wasn’t planned and i wanted to give him a bit time to process it before i got home from work

I'm the same. I haven't told anyone yet, I'm 17 weeks. I've had losses and I know people will be so excited (although they don't know about the losses) and I'm not quite there yet, I'll be excited at some point but for now I'm still anxious. I also don't like the attention and would prefer not to talk about it too much.

never had a loss but still hated telling people- I found it quite cringing. I had my line manager tell the senior bosses and those in my office, she did it subtly though, announcing to the room that I wanted mcdonalds for lunch due to a craving....

You can't change other people's reactions, but can you change the way you deliver it to force a certain reaction?

How did you tell your manager?

Same, it was kind of an elephant in the room at work for a while. It wasn’t a secret but at the same time it felt weird telling people and having a loss really tainted the first half of my pregnancy because I was so anxious. Now I’m close to the end it’s less of a big deal.

I'm glad others feel the same.

@leadbetter5 I just said that I was letting him know because I had an appointment! I dont know how to deliver it in a more factual way! I feel like people are more touchy-feely because they know how upset I was after the loss last year

Its times like this I wish had facebook and then I could just announce it on there and be done with it, but I dont have any social media.

Was thinking of just telling a couple people and letting them tell others so I dont have to.

When I told him a guy at work I said I've got some news, and I was congratulated...... Weeks later he recounted his version of when I told him I was pregnant and he said I remember you said I've got some good news. I just thought it was interesting that he had put "good" in there when it's not something I said but in his memory it was good news. Quite sweet really.

Yeah I hate it too - partly because of previous loss and partly I just hate being the centre of attention (and especially hate attention on my body). I told my managers really early out of necessity, then my close colleagues after 12 week scan results via our group WhatsApp and from there it's just trickled out without me really telling anyone.

I was chatting to a not-close (male) colleague the other day.. he was talking about his new shift pattern and mentioned he's now single so the hours make sense for him.. then he asked how I was and i felt really awkward about saying "I'm pregnant" so I went bright red - I'm sure he thought that I thought he was hinting at a date but really not - it was so embarrassing!

I find it weird to say the words! I've either gestured to everyone I've told or said I've got news & they've guessed. I just find the words so weird haha! X