Should I wait a bit longer to TTC or just go for it!

[KaptenKrusty]

Married 2 years now, we've been together 9 years - we were a bit "wild" most of our relationship, travelling the world, in and out of jobs, never really settling anywhere, just having lots of fun basically - we have really gotten out shit together this last few years, settled in London, have decent jobs/money, almost have a deposit together to purchase our first house!

I was never really pushed on kids when younger , but now the last 2 years or so i've become obsessed with having a baby, and would have happily went for it ages ago - but my Husband (quite rightly so) pushed back slightly, thought we should get the house deposit together first! In that time we have saved like crazy and are nearly there with it now - we also booked ourselves a dream month long holiday in April (excited) - we also have tickets for Glastonbury in July!

I am keen to get going with this now as I'm so anxious that it won't be straight forward to just get pregnant and if we struggle I obviously want to know sooner rather than later and have time to explore options (ivf etc if it was necessary)

DH thinks we should wait until after glasto to start trying - I think we should just go for it while on our holiday - but then its possible that I would be pregnant at the festival which may not be ideal!

SO what would you do - wait another 5 months or just crack on ??

(He is 40 & I am 31)

You’re young enough to wait until after Glastonbury, I reckon. Being in the early stages of pregnancy at a festival sounds like hell!

It depends on how you feel about travel/festivalling whilst pregnant. Loads of people do both, and have a great time.. but if you have a rough pregnancy or love a drink, then it'll be tricky! There's no right or wrong and only you two can decide. You could get pregnant instantly, or as you say, it might take a while.

Being 31 makes you a spring chicken!

I got my last boozy holiday and last hoorahs out of the way before trying, I was 36 (now 37 and 26 weeks pregnant) pregnant by 4th cycle of TTC. However I'll have to say once we made the decision to have a kid we weren't super cautious about contraception outside of my "fertility window". I'm glad I had a last cocktail laden, carefree holiday though, pregancy isn't fun and my first trimester I would have cancelled Glasto lol

5 months is nothing, get your last bits of irresponsible adulthood out of your system and have fun ;)

However you can start doing stuff to prepare like taking folic acid now and start tracking your menstrual cycles on an app to get a better idea of your most fertile days :)

I personally wouldnt want to be in first trimester at a festival. The sickness and weeing and constipation I just dont think I'd be able to have a good time because I'd be battling these things constantly!

I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant and having a horrible time with nausea, vommitting, constipation, fatigue, hormonal ups and downs - the works! I would definitely not want to be camping at a festival! In saying that, you mmight be one of the lucky ones who has no bad symptoms at all.

I would echo one of the PP that it's a good time to start tracking your cycles and taking folic acid/folate. I tracked my cycles for a year before TTC because we were using that method as contraception. Worked well for us, and I became pregnant on the first try (I am 31, partner is 32). You are young and can definitely wait a few months before trying. Equally, if it's all you can think about, just go for it but know that until you've figured out your cycles it could take a while anyway (or not!) :)

I was going to say go for it but considering coronavirus etc., I'd spend the time from now to Glastonbury taking prenatal vitamins and relaxing.

Thanks - in my head glasto would be fine pregnant - then I remember visiting my friend when she was only Early stages of pregnancy and she was so ill - she couldn’t even stand up was just stuck on the sofa in bits !

Glasto is hard enough in ordinary circumstances - being pregnant is probably not ideal - and thinking about it - I think I’d like to have a few drinks and let loose! Who knows how long it be before I get tickets for it again!

Have just picked up some folic acid on way home from work so will focus on that and find a tracking app (and maybe save a bit more cash over the next few months too while I’m waiting haha 🤣 )

I did Leeds festival just for the day when I was 7 weeks pregnant and I was SO tired. I still had a great day but it really wasn't the same and I can't imagine if I'd been there the whole weekend! I think I would of for sure gone home 😂

@lalala5 oh god - imagine I went all the way to Glastonbury and then just spent the whole time wanting to go to back to the tent to sleep it was just panicking about when I can next go for a wee 🤭😂 really not ideal!! I think I can wait until after the festival