Anxiety reassurance - 1st trimester

[newlymarried2019]

Morning all,

Sorry for this but I'm looking for a little reassurance about miscarriage possibilities.

According to my LMP I'm currently 9 weeks and 6 days pregnant, I had an early scan a week ago who moved my dates back by a week and 3 days - making me 8 weeks and 3 days today. The sonographer said baby looked healthy and we saw a heartbeat. I then had my booking appt on Monday and have been assigned midwife care as I'm 'low risk' so was feeling really positive moving forward and waiting for my scan (which will either be at 11+ or 13+1)..

But in the last week my head CANNOT seem to shake off the negative feelings.
I've had awful nausea which on one hand reassures me, but then the niggling voice in my head says that it's doesn't mean I haven't had a mmc and symptoms have simply continued.

I'm naturally a planner, I like to account for the worst case scenario to make sure I'm ready for all possibilities. But my mind seems to be set on everything going wrong and not everything going right.
I did already mention this to my midwife who didn't seem concerned and said anxiety is normal for first time mums / during the first trimester.

Any supportive strategies / comments more than welcome ☺️

Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's quite normal for them to have a couple of days difference to what you think it is - I think they are so tiny at that gestation they are hard to measure accurately!

The anxiety is definitely normal. I've had a mmc in the past and I didn't lose symptoms beforehand.

My advice would be to just try and enjoy every moment as your pregnancy is far more likely to be okay than go wrong. I'm terrified in this pregnancy but I don't want my past experience to spoil this when I've longed for it.

You need this website

datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

This sounds as if I'm reading my own words!!! I'm now 13 weeks and I felt the exact same way ever since I found out we're expecting at 4 weeks.

The difference is, I didn't have an early scan, which made me feel even worse. Waiting for the 12 week scan can be very scary, the feeling of simply not being able to know if everything is going well inside me before seeing the baby for the first time was crushing.

Try to take it easy and talk about your anxiety to someone close (partner, mother, friend). There's really nothing you can do to prevent early miscarriage, the nature will take it's course, but you stressing so badly won't help your body in any way. Don't let it take over your life. These thoughts and concerns are perfectly normal, your whole organism is currently working overtime to support the growth of a baby and it's physically and emotionally overwhelming. You have massive chances of everything being alright and that's what you should keep thinking unless a reason for concern is found.

Take care xx

Reading this was like someone had taken everything out of brain and written it down. I had an early scan at 7 weeks 4 days and everything was fine and saw a heart beat. I've had no bleeds, symptoms have carried on more or less normally...I've been lucky with just tiredness and mild nausea throughout which is the same as my mum during her pregnancies. But I have my scan on Friday and I am worried there wont be a heart beat and I just feel so anxious it's taking the joy out of it. Congratulations on your pregnancy I think we probably need to remember that the odds of a healthy pregnancy are higher than a miscarriage. I'm trying to keep my anxiety low, doing some meditation and gentle daily exercise like walking and pilates mainly to take my mind of it all. Best of luck with it though and please know youre not alone x

Wow, all of you ladies are describing JUST EXACTLY how I feel wow xx

It is a very anxious time. I, like you, tended to feel quite negative and almost assumed I would have a miscarriage and assumed it would be the worst outcome. I think as a way of protecting myself. At some point, I decided to think to myself, well even if I do have a miscarriage, I can still try and appreciate this little bit of being pregnant now. And, even if I do have a miscarriage that doesn't mean I don't care about this tiny embryo/fetus right now so I am going to try and appreciate it for what it is at this moment in time. And although I felt pretty sick and rubbish, I also marvelled at the whole thing, changes to my body and the biology of what was happening. I didn't really see or talk about it as a baby yet, we didn't discuss names or buy anything. I also didn't let myself google or research pregnancy any further ahead than the next week and just focused on getting to each new week. This didn't take away from me thinking it was likely there would be a negative outcome. However, it did make me feel less concerned about that and more "what will be will be".