Anxious as no Pregnancy symptoms

[JTS2020]

Hi girls so I’ve recently gone through my first round of IVF with my wife we used donor sperm and ICSI. Got our BFP on 08.02.20 and I’m now currently 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant (due date is 15th October 2020) but I’m feeling incredibly anxious as I’ve had very little symptoms or at least the seem to be fading! Before I did the test I was convinced that I wasn’t pregnant as there were many complications with our IVF (firstly 16 eggs were retrieved but only 9 of them were mature enough to be fertilised and out of those 9 only 4 successfully fertilised - they all turned into embryo’s but on day 5 transfer there was 3 blastocysts but only only one suitable Blastocyst to transfer which was a grade AA1 and I was told this wasn’t a top grade!!! Also on transfer it took 2 attempts as after first try embryologist confirmed it was still in the transfer syringe so it had to be re loaded and went in the second try I was worried this may have damaged it... I had 2 other blastocysts but they weren’t developing normally so lab decided to keep them for one extra day to see if they would improve but on day 6 they called me to say they had failed... which made me believe the one I had was also going to have the same fate...
Anyway since finding out I’m pregnant I’ve been so negative and anxious feel like I’m googling everything. The only symptoms I’ve had was aching lower back and lower abdominal (like a band the whole way round) on/off for a few days right around period due day a few days after BFP but literally nothing else at all and since then felt perfectly normal like I’m not pregnant at all I just feel ordinary, my boobs are sore but o believe this is due to the cyclogest pessaries I’m having to use as I had this side effect since using them after egg retrieval, I have been taking pregnancy tests almost daily which still show I’m pregnant but just have this feeling of impending doom

If it makes you feel any better I've had no symptoms for this pregnancy either and feel very normal. I am 9+4 and saw the baby's heartbeat last week too. So fingers crossed everything goes well for you.

Thankyou it’s helpful as everytime I type into google loads of symptoms come up! I have a 6 week scan next week so keeping my fingers crossed!!

Hi don't worry. I think 6-7 weeks my nausea kicked in. I didn't have sore breasts etc.

I think 6 weeks is usually when the hormones get stronger. You also must remember many people experience things in different ways.

I had 24 hour nausea. Exhaustion and low mood from 6 weeks.

My friend had no sickness at all.

My other friend only felt sick for an hour in the morning and hated brushing her teeth.

I had another friend who laid down at teatime and felt sick for teatime until bedtime for the first 2-3 months.

It really does vary and whilst symptoms will reassure you, they are not always pleasent, if you can try and relax and rest,take your folic acid and eat well. Once symptoms kick in they can last a while and it isn't always much fun. I envy people who don't get symptoms in the long run. I would have more children if I didn't have such exhausting symptoms. I wouldn't be able to function for the kids I have.

I hope what I'm saying makes sense. Worrying is wasted energy. Keep going. Unless you have bleeds and pain then everything is going as it should. Congratulations and I hope your journey to motherhood is a positive experience with lots of happiness. Xxx

Thankyou so much that’s so helpful it’s hard not to worry although I try not to! I’m going to try keep the positive vibes up! You’ve reassured me! Thankyou xx

That's the first step to being a mum worrying. It's totally normal. You've been on a huge journey to get to this point. You will be scared to have it taken away. The hardest part of pregnancy is the wait isn't it. But when you have your first scan and see them you will breathe a sigh of relief. I know I did. My six week scan showed what looked like a grain of rice in a black circle. The sonogrammer zoomed in and managed to show me the flicker of his heart. I bet you can't wait for your scan now. I do honestly understand how you feel. It sounds like all it well. I know alot of people don't approve of them but I loved using my Doppler from 12 weeks. X

Strap yourself in, I felt fine until 8 weeks then was like I'd been hit by a bus! Good luck and congratulations xx

If it helps bar missing periods and obvious bump growth I didn’t have a single pregnancy symptom.

DD is now 13.

Yes the worry is real! Even when I try not to think about it my sub conduits is like nooo you must be anxious!! Can’t stop taking pregnancy tests! Absolutely my scan can’t come quick enough although bitter sweet as anxious/worrying nothing will be on the screen! The wait if definitely the worst part! It’s like I want to feel ill for some reassurance somethings happening but at the same time I should be grateful that I feel healthy and normal! I bet the Doppler was great! Thursday can’t came soon enough thanks again for all the positive vibes I’ll keep you all updated!!

@Nillynally oh gosh maybe it’s a sign that all is to come later then!! ! X

@JacquesHammer wow that’s amazing!So lucky! X

Hi there, congratulations on your bfp! I'm 7w and don't really have many symptoms. Most days I feel normal and wouldn't notice a difference if I didn't know I was pregnant. Some symptoms like frequent urination seemed to stop last week, I just had my viability scan and everything's normal. It's important to remember that no matter how anxious you are this won't harm the process. I find it reassuring to have plan b in mind for another IVF in case this one fails. But generally my mantra is that at the moment everything is good and it doesn't make much sense to worry about things that are not happening and statistically most likely won't happen. Develop a plan for if things go sour but use it only if things go wrong. For now allow yourself to relax, read positive things like which vitamins are best to use, what diet is best, how baby develops. Good luck!

Hi and congratulations! I’m 15weeks and didn’t really have any symptoms in the first trimester. No sickness, no exhaustion, boobs slightly bigger and a bit achy but pain was on and off. If I hadn’t missed a period I wouldn’t have known I was pregnant I felt so normal. Had a private reassurance scan at 8 weeks (this really helped me) and my 12 week scan a few weeks ago and all looks good. Try not to worry!

First pregnancy all I had was sore nipples. Took a test because it lasted two weeks and it was positive. Went for a scan and I was already 9 weeks! Shock is an understatement. The sore nipples lasted the rest of the pregnancy but I had no other symptoms. I count myself lucky as most women I know have suffered terrible morning sickness. Don't stress

Congratulations! With DD1 I had sore boobs for about a week from 5-6 weeks then it just faded. Like you I assumed it was from cyclogest (also IVF). Had no other symptoms until I got a bump. With DD2 (natural conception) I had some slight nausea around 8 weeks or so but if I hadn't known I was pregnant I wouldn't have guessed, it was that insignificant! No other symptoms at all until the bump arrived. It's so hard not to read into the lack of symptoms and as much as people tell you you're lucky, I think it can be reassuring to have them even if it means you feel rubbish. So I do understand! Take care of yourself

Thanks everyone! Latest update I went for my 6 week scan last week and there was a pregnancy sack with a baby in it and a heart beat still feeling anxious as not feeling anything still but glad there was actually a baby in there!!