I’m pregnant and apparently single.

[Plnchr96]

I found out a week ago I’m pregnant. The father first asked me to abort, then he came to his senses and then he disappeared again.
I’m scared, I don’t know if I can’t do it alone. I still share the house and I don’t have much money saved. I’m scared I won’t be able to do it.
Is there anybody who has been in the same situation?
Thank you everyone in advance

Unless I was opposed to abortions due to religious reasons or was in a situation where I may not get pregnant again, I wouldn’t have a baby in these circumstances. No present father & not in a great financial situation. I just couldn’t put myself though that when there’s hope for a future with these things. That’s just me.

Who do you share the house with? Do you have anyone who can support you? Friends / parents / siblings?

I know I should consider abortion but I can’t do it.
And I have friends here, but all my family is not in this country.

Are you working in the country you are currently in? Is there anything to stop you returning to your family?

It is not going to be easy to have a child in the circumstances you describe, but circumstances change (admittedly, they could change for the worse). If you feel you can't have an abortion I dont think you should. Either decision (to have the baby or not) can't be undone, and you need to really know you will not be haunted by your choice.

Yes I’m working full time but here I have a job and I can have an independence, if I go back home it will be hard to find a job. So it would be even worse.
All I’m scared about is not to be able to do it alone.

Are you well paid for your job? Will you be able to afford childcare after maternity leave? For reference, I pay £210 a week for 7:30-6 at nursery.

You don't really have to answer any of my questions if they are too much, just helping you to see what you need to consider

If you can help, I’m more than happy to answer. That’s what the forum is for, right?😊
Well paid.. mmm it depends what you mean for “well paid”
I actually work in a nursery if that can help. But I don’t think you can bring your own child to your work place. 🤔

There are two nursery workers at my child's nursery who bring their children!

Obviously I don't know how it works in terms of fees.

I suppose it all depends on your personality. I would find it hard after working with toddlers all day to then have to look after my own, alone.

I really hope that this works out for you, whatever you decide. Best of luck

Do they? Ok I might talk to my boss, to see if it’s something he would consider.
Do you know if applying for the Universal Credit would be helpful?

Yes apply for UC. How many hours do u work? U can also get a maternity grant so £500 towards baby items after you've claimed UC.

www.gov.uk/apply-universal-credit

www.gov.uk/sure-start-maternity-grant

Have a read x

www.healthystart.nhs.uk/for-health-professionals/vitamins/
You can also get your vitamins etc for you/baby for free
And when baby's here you can get vouchers for fruit , milk, formula milk, fresh veg etc
Here - www.healthystart.nhs.uk/healthy-start-vouchers/what-to-buy-with-the-vouchers/

Op the father is a dick and you can do it alone. Many women have before you and many will after you :) good luck x

When can I apply for the UC? Because they told me I have to wait to give birth. Is that right?
Thank you very much for the links, I’ll have a look😊

Thank you so much for the support, it’s really helpful especially with all the mood swings I’ve been having 😅🤦🏻‍♀️

I work 45hrs i week at the moment so I don’t think I’m entitled to the maternity grant. I read I have to be unemployed to be entitled to. Is that right?

Am 39 weeks pregnant and am doing it completely alone.Broke up with babys dad when I was just 2 months pregnant.Same reason he wanted me to abort and when I said no he ended things.
Even for my labor am going alone.No family member or friend coming with me.My family lives outside UK.An emergency Nanny will help me look after my 5 year old while I go to give birth.
You can do this.You just need to be strong and have a good mindset about it.Wish you all the best.

Reading all these messages give me hope and faith. We will be fine💪🏼
I wish you all the best too, @Bree88! Stay strong😊