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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Oh Sh1t

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hogwarts · 03/09/2007 19:29

I have just discovered I am pregnant. I have 2 DC, age 5 and 8. Always wanted another but DH didnt so we sort of agreed that we wouldnt, although I always had a secret desire to fall pregnant again. Anyway, I had my mirena coil out earlier this year due to problems and went back onto pill. Period is a week late so tested today and BFP! Most of me is delighted but I am worried sick about the reaction I am going to get when I tell DH. How do I tell him? Its really not a good time (that said I was pregnant at 21 with DS and living with my parents so that wasnt good timing either!)DD was planned though I fell pregnant quicker than expected and had to postpone our wedding. By my reckoning I am due start of May, my Brother is getting married in March and I am due to be bridesmaid and the first fitting is this week - what am I going to do??

Have to go and get DC to bed then heading out but I had to get this off my chest to someone and there is no one in RL I can tell yet. I will look back tomorrow morning.

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Tortington · 03/09/2007 19:30

congrats

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 03/09/2007 19:32

Yay a new little life....you will cope. It will be fine.

littledev · 03/09/2007 20:50

Hi hogwarts, i also have two kiddies, 5 and 3.5, DH definately not wanting anymore because we have "one of each", me loving to have another one, but resigned myself to the fact that there was no way. Then i found out i was pregnant, worried about it all day, DH was out until late, and then went straight to bed, followed him up, sat on bed, and just came out with it, I then burst into tears, and DH was lovely, said it didn't matter, and that we would cope, and that he would love this one just as much as the other two. We haven't told anyone else yet, and i know MiL will say that ther is no such thing as accidents, but we are happy, and at the end of the day that is all that counts.My Edd is 25th April. Congrats and the best of luck.X

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hogwarts · 04/09/2007 08:18

Thanks littledev. I told DH last night that period was late but not that I had actually taken the test. Neither of us slept very well and we were both awake at 6am talking about it. He is adament that he doesnt want another one, asked me how I would feel about termination if I was pg. I told him it was something that I would never consider and would rather raise 3 children alone than consider this as an opion. i'ver told him I will get a test today but to be honest I am worried sick about it. I know what the outcome will be, I dont know what his reaction will be. Have driven to work in tears, dont know how I am going to get through the day. To make things worse we are having work done to our house and are living with my parents so discussing in private is going to be difficult. DH had an affair 3 years ago and we lived apart for 9 months, things are back on track with us again, happier than before and I am so so scared that this will be too much for him.

So happy, yet so scared and sad at the same time...

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beller · 04/09/2007 08:36

Oh HOgwarts....I really feel for you...
I had a contraception failure with my xp..im now 23 weeks pregnant, and he has walked away. Having said that, we were not in a long standing stable relstionship....Im sorry that you have faced an affair, but glad thinsg are back on track. I really hope he can get his head round this ,and that you can both be happy about the new baby. Big hugs, my thoughts are with you xxxx

BecauseImWorthIt · 04/09/2007 08:38

But it was an accident, wasn't it? It wasn't as if you were doing it deliberately/behind his back?

Hope you manage to resolve it.

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hogwarts · 04/09/2007 08:45

Yeah it was an accident and thats what I have said to him, It took 2! Hormones obv kicking in already as I am sat here in work crying my eyes out. Going to be a long 9 months! Thanks for the support, its good to talk to someone about it IYKWIM.

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EdieMcredie · 04/09/2007 11:28

Oh no, you poor thing. Is there anyway you can take the day off work? Doesn't sound like you should be there. x

Fireflyfairy2 · 04/09/2007 11:32

Can you call dh & tell him you've taken the test. That way he will have the rest of the day to get used to the idea before you see him this evening.

Congratulations Hogwarts!

harleyd · 04/09/2007 11:32

do you think that when he has time to think bout this he will come round to the idea?
congratulations btw

beansprout · 04/09/2007 11:38

This is not something that you alone have done that he then reacts to. You both had sex (obviously) and there has been a genuine failure with the contraception. It happens. He can't have sex and then walk away from the consequences. It hasn't worked out the way you planned but hey, it's not an impossible situation.

Nature is a wonderful thing and gives us plenty of time to get used to the idea.
I really hope it all works out for you and that he is supportive rather than angry.

nailpolish · 04/09/2007 11:41

he absolutely cannot get angry with you he got you pregnant - you didnt do it alone
got it irritates me how men seem to be completely responsibility (contraception) and blame free

you need to tell him so you can share the worry and decisions

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