How do people wait for scan? Any waiting coping strategies? - Pretty sure I've had a miscarriage

[RaachelMorrow]

Hello again,

I posted yesterday morning about my sad news that I'm 99% sure I was having a miscarriage. I had red blood, like a tap dripping for 12 hours and awful cramps. No clots or anything but completely heartbroken.

I spoke with the early pregnancy ward because I had a scan with them last week due to my light brown spotting, and they dated me at only 4 weeks (despite doctors telling me 7!), and the booked me in for a follow up scan 2 weeks later - which will now be next Wednesday. When I called yesterday the unit told me to keep the appointment and take a pregnancy test before I came in. If it was positive - come on in, if it's negative just call up and cancel.

The bleeding stopped yesterday around midday and I had nothing until this morning where my light brown spotting has returned. Now I'm about 90 - 95% sure.

I'm trying not to get too upset because of how early it was but I feel devastated. I don't want any to think I'm being silly or over-dramatic so I've been holding it all in and washing it way with comments like, 'it wasn't meant to be' and 'everything happens for a reason'. My OH and mum keep trying to fill me with hope but I think I know in my gut. I know there's no point in doing a test until then.

HOW do people wait? This is my first pregnancy and I don't really know how to cope. 6 days to go :(

Thanks,
R x

I know just how hard this is 💔💔💔 waiting for a scan is the worst thing in the whole world I'd still go in for the scan even if you think you've miscarried because this is what I did and they checked that I had bled out properly and that everything was okay inside x

I'm sorry I can't make you stress less but it might help you to know I was in the same boat and I'm now 15+4 and seen our wiggley peanut on our scan.

I was bleeding from weeks 5-9, everyday, some days it was bright red and I'd change two pads in a day, other days it'd just be pink when I wiped after the loo.

I was called back to the EPU every week in the time frame and was originally sent to them because of the blood and cramps. As awful as it is you can barely see anything until 7/8 weeks.

I know it's so so hard but try to rest up and distract yourself with whatever makes you happy.

I'm so sorry. You need the scan to be sure, but the cramping is a bad sign. I have been in your position and the waiting is so hard. All I can recommend is distraction, ask to be signed off work if you're struggling, and talk to supportive friends.

Sorry you are going through this horrible experience. But you are right, everything does happen for a reason. When I had a mc it was the end of the world for me, but if I hadn't had lost that pregnancy I would never have had my dd... Every cloud has a silver lining.
I'm no expert but seen as you are not passing clots that seems like a good sign to me. I hope everything is looking good at your next scan.

Hi everyone, just an update on the above. I had my scan today and it wasn't good news but we're okay.

My body has completely looked after itself which I suppose is good, and my ovaries look healthy. Spotting completely stopped 2 days ago and I've got a negative on the pregnancy test I took this morning.

My partner and I had a great discussion this morning before the scan and it's really helped. We had a 3 week holiday booked to explore Bali and the surrounding islands before we found out about our surprise, and we're also looking at buying a house together.

Everything happens for a reason; now we can plan to do this properly and make the most of our immediate plans. Feeling closer than ever as a couple after this whole experience, and now we know we're ready and want to start a family!

No doubt the grief will come in waves but we are in it together, for now, I'm feeling okay.

Thank you for all of the support and best wishes for the future to you all I'll be back at the end of the year - fingers crossed x

Ah, sorry to hear that it was indeed a miscarriage, but glad you are coping well and making plans for the future. All the best