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Help - My first miscarriage 5-6 weeks - what do I do?

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RaachelMorrow · 12/02/2020 07:26

Hi everyone,

I'm 99% sure that a miscarriage started yesterday. On Monday evening I had red blood when I wiped, and it's just got progressively worse since then. From yesterday afternoon it's been like a slow tap of red blood with awful cramps.

No clots and it's not stringy yet. But what are my next steps here? I had an early scan last week and I'm booked in for another next Wednesday. Do I call the early pregnancy unit today?

Do I wait it out? Will they want me to go for an operation? Or is it just some tablets at this early stage of pregnancy? I have no idea what to expect here.

I'm obviously completely heartbroken as well.

Thanks,
R x

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RaachelMorrow · 12/02/2020 07:27

This is my first pregnancy :(

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LittleBrownBaby · 12/02/2020 07:30

You poor thing, I miscarried at this point last year and it is heartbreaking. Personally I just let it run its course at home - but I think calling the EPU is sensible. Rest up, take painkillers if you can, and give yourself time.

shopaholic85 · 12/02/2020 07:33

I'm sorry you are going through this Flowers

I lost my first baby at 5-6 weeks. Definitely call the EPU and explain you are in pain. They will scan you to confirm. I miscarried naturally, so didn't require any intervention.

I passed a large clot and bled heavily for a week. My GP signed me off for 2 weeks.

Do you have anyone that can be with you?

Patchworksack · 12/02/2020 07:37

I'm sorry Flowers. They won't 'do' anything at an early stage if you have a miscarriage that is progressing naturally. The medical/surgical management is if a miscarriage is 'missed' so the baby has no heartbeat but the body has not recognised that, or if it is incomplete. You are probably more comfortable staying at home than sitting in one of their depressing corridors. I would phone them and see whether they want you to keep your appointment next week - some places scan to check the uterus is clear, some rely on a negative pregnancy test. It's important that if you do go on to miscarry it's on your medical record. Look after yourself, it's such a shitty thing to go through. Is someone there to look after you?

SallyLovesCheese · 12/02/2020 07:38

I'm very sorry you're going through this.

My mc sounds similar. I needed no medical intervention, I was around 7 weeks and it was my first pregnancy. I had bleeding for about 4 days with cramps. I had a second scan a week later to confirm it was all gone.

I would call EPU, definitely, and follow their advice. In the meantime, look after yourself and allow yourself to grieve.

elc19 · 12/02/2020 07:43

So sorry you are going through this. Definitely call EPU as they normally check you have "passed" everything so that there is nothing retained and no risk of infection.

We are all here for you, sending love x

elc19 · 12/02/2020 07:45

Forgot to say with my 2nd miscarriage I lost a LOT of blood and clots the size of oranges and assumed everything had gone but a scan revealed not and I had an ERPC, which is straight forward and not as scary as it sounds. I've had two of these, they may offer you tablets too if anything retainer x

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RaachelMorrow · 12/02/2020 08:27

I'll definitely give EPU a call in a while then. Thank you for sharing your stories ❤ This absolutely sucks x

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RaachelMorrow · 12/02/2020 09:15

Update

Spoke with a midwife at the Early Pregnancy Unit. She said that I just have to hang tight and let it bleed out. If things get really bad, like hemorrhaging blood and unbearable pain then to come down to admissions.

She said to keep the Wednesday appointment for now and to take a pregnancy test the morning of, and if its negative to let them know and I'll not have to come in for the scan. But it's it's still positive to also let them know and come on in.

Obviously she couldn't confirm anything either way over the phone but I'm pretty sure this is it.

So I'll just try and recover, relax and come to terms with everything until then.

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IslayBrigid · 12/02/2020 12:37

Hey OP, so sorry to hear you're going through this. We chatted a few times on other threads. I hope you're OK. Look after yourself, rest, give yourself time xx

Nowayorhighway · 12/02/2020 12:43

I’m so sorry OP Flowers. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks last year and I’m afraid not much can be done. You need strong painkillers, your body will do the rest usually. It’s rare to have retained products this early on, that usually happens with later miscarriages especially missed miscarriages.

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RaachelMorrow · 13/02/2020 14:38

Thank you so much everyone! The red bleeding stopped last night, although it was like a constant tap for the 12 hours prior. Back to brown spotting now. Barely any clots throughout all of this.

Trying not to give myself any hope but.... bodies are so weird! And hormones are even worse. I wish I could fast forward to Wednesday :(

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Treaclepie19 · 13/02/2020 15:41

I'm so sorry, I hope Wednesday gives you a lovely surprise.

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RaachelMorrow · 19/02/2020 12:47

Hi everyone, just an update on the above. I had my scan today and it wasn't good news but we're okay.

My body has completely looked after itself which I suppose is good, and my ovaries look healthy. Spotting completely stopped 2 days ago and I've got a negative on the pregnancy test I took this morning.

My partner and I had a great discussion this morning before the scan and it's really helped. We had a 3 week holiday booked to explore Bali and the surrounding islands before we found out about our surprise, and we're also looking at buying a house together.

Everything happens for a reason; now we can plan to do this properly and make the most of our immediate plans. Wine Feeling closer than ever as a couple after this whole experience, and now we know we're ready and want to start a family!

No doubt the grief will come in waves but we are in it together, for now, I'm feeling okay.

Thank you for all of the support and best wishes for the future to you all Flowers I'll be back at the end of the year - fingers crossed x

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thebigthreefive · 19/02/2020 13:01

You're dealing with this so well Thanks great outlook for your immediate plans, you should be really proud of yourself

Treaclepie19 · 20/02/2020 12:37

I'm glad you're feeling okay. Lots of luck for the future x

30baby11 · 15/02/2021 19:11

Hi Everyone,

Mum's net has been an actual support system for me this past week.

My first pregancy, however think I've miscarried at 5 weeks.

Found out I was pregnant last Sunday, on Thursday started lightly spotting, was told was implantation bleeding, turned 5 weeks yesterday and it got heavier, went to A&E as advised, there weren't helpful... Soon as I left A&E bleeding got heavier, once home had an episode of cramping and I think I passed two clot looking material right after feeling rectal pressure (tmi) cramping stopped after that, just continuous heavy period like bleeding, no pain so I am grateful .. Not the valentines day I had in mind :(...
EPAU said to test again on Sunday and if positive they'll scan Monday...
I've read so many stories in mumsnet where some have turned out to be positive and I really want to be optimistic about that, but I'm being a realist and think I fit the story of miscarriage...
Just wanted to share my story for anyone else scrolling and looking for comfort..

What Megan Markle said was quite true...

Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.

So glad we have mumsnet and similar blogs..

Lizbb · 15/02/2021 19:43

@RaachelMorrow hey hun. So sorry about your loss. Sa e thing happen to me.. was about 11 weeks went to wipe and wiped away blood. It stopped that afternoon but came back in the evening the next day and got worse. Called mw and she asked me to calm epu. They checked but couldnt see anything. They did a blood test and saw the level high but next day it was low when they checked. It such a painful experience. I had natural mc. Few days later bleeding stopped. I'm hoping to ttc now. (About 3 weeks ago)..
Hope your ok. Are you looking ttc now or wait for a while

Lizbb · 15/02/2021 19:51

@elc19 hi sorry also to hear of your miscarriage. Can I ask please, if the positive test say negative is there any reason to still go epu to scan and see if there is anything still there.
Also do you know whether it's safe to ttc straight away or better to wait for first period? Thank you

Helena86 · 17/02/2021 06:46

@30baby11 I am very sorry you are going through this. How are you feeling? Sending big hugs.

I am in pretty much the same situation, I am at the 6 week mark and started bleeding on Valentine's Day. Spoke to 111 and then local out of hours that day who didn't tell me anything apart from wait and see. Decided to call my doctor on Monday who said the same, I will know if I miscarry and no point scanning or doing anything.

Bleeding has continued with stringy tissue present (sorry). I am 35 and it's taken 1.5 years to conceive so we are absolutely gutted.

I am pretty sure it is a MC but unhappy with being left to figure it out myself with no assessment I called the midwife at Tommy's. She was the first person who made me feel like she actually cared this was happening to me. She agreed that I needed some kind of assessment rather than me being expected to know what is normal bleeding and what isn't.

A long winded number of calls later, yesterday my doctor agreed to send me for blood tests. I have one today and another one on Friday. I am certain it will show my levels dropping but I just feel I need that closure. They won't refer me for a scan until after 7 weeks and only if my tests show I might still be pregnant.

I want to try again asap so at this point I just want this awful experience to be over.

I read somewhere that one of the worst parts of MC is that it takes your innocence out of pregnancy. I really feel this. I naively thought pregnancy was going to be a joyful wonderful thing, now it feels scary and hurtful.

Sending positivity to you all, I'm clearly lacking it right now xx

Lizbb · 17/02/2021 08:57

@Helena86 hey hun sorry for what your going through. It's sad and ashame for the lack if support given even if your under 10wk. I was 11 wks so had an internal and external scan and 2 blood test that week. Some pp bled and still have the baby. Hugs to you. X

30baby11 · 17/02/2021 09:10

HI @helena86, thank you for the kind words.
I am so very sorry you are experiencing this, it is true you never imagine being the 1 in 4 who has to go through this the first time round.
I am surprised that they won't scan you at 6 weeks, my EPAU were going to book me in on Monday if I had a positive test this Sunday so I would have been 6 weeks, I've also read a lot of people had scans 6 weeks. At least you will get the bloods done.
I held out all hope that it was something other than miscarriage, however I think we just know our bodies, I took my test at 3am this morning and it's as negative as can be, my bleeding has also stopped I think. We have agreed to try again as soon as possible in hopes my body will be used to the change now.
I will be calling my GP today to demand blood tests to check my thyroid levels just in case they spiked during this pregnancy as I have a dormant condition.

Stay positive because I have read some amazing stories where the outcomes are very different... Sending love and positivity xx

Helena86 · 17/02/2021 10:36

@30baby11 thank you too. You are right about the support on here, it does mean a lot when you can't really talk to other people about it.

I have had to really fight to get the blood tests done and as I say they refused a scan saying the bloods would have to be done first. I am really unhappy with the doctors and will be moving practice as I don't feel cared for.

Please keep me updated on your journey. I will let you know how I get on. As I said, I am pretty sure I know the answer but I'd rather have some science to confirm that is the case.

Good luck with your blood tests too. Hopefully we will have some better news soon 💕 xx

30baby11 · 17/02/2021 10:58

@helena86 it is so true, thank you very much. Yes the science would help so we can start the grieving process sooner, I did a pg test during my spotting before it got heavier and the lines were fainter so I started coming to terms then.
I think without the support of knowing the commonality of experience I'd be stuck in a why me place, but now I'm trying to just be postitive that I concieved and I will concieve again, been reading and there's no waiting time either as long as your healed. X all the best and I really do hope all the best outcomes.

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