Miscarriage? Chemical pregnancy? :/

[Jlw2020]

I came off my contraception on early December (coil) and after feeling a little off colour I did a test 2 weeks ago which was positive, followed by a further 4. I had a midwife apt 2 days later and provided blood and urine samples and with only having 2 small periods since having the coil removed (I didn’t have them with the coil) they dated me from mid December! My dating scan was booked for March 12th and we’ve been so excited but at the weekend I had another small periods almost 4 weeks after my last and 8 weeks after my first - I was on holiday and thought it could be spotting but rang my gp yesterday who advised I see my midwife again tomorrow, I bumped in to a friend yesterday who is a midwife and I asked her advice and she pointed me in the direction of the early pregnancy unit who booked me in for a scan tomorrow. I explained everything to my worrying partner who said can’t you just take a test to check and I dismissed it as not being the way to go but this morning I just didn’t feel as I have done (I’ve not had morning sickness at all just loss of appetite) and I took the last test out of the box....it was negative.

We’re heartbroken. It’s only been 2 weeks of elation and barely any trying but I can’t explain the sense of loss. I call the early pregnancy unit who just said it was probably just an unsuccessful pregnancy and no one needed to see me and then rang the doctors who said the same and now hear I am and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if it was a chemical pregnancy a miscarriage, ectopic I don’t know I just know I was pregnant and now I’m not and they’ve just said basically take care and hopefully it won’t take long to conceive again. I’m just looking for others to talk to. My partner is great but feels useless when I cry and I don’t want him to, I know he’s sad too but he’s just worried about me. I’m the most positive person and have such a bright outlook on things but this today has broken me and I understand and sympathise with so many but just need someone who understands to be able to talk to me.

So sorry to hear you are going through thia. I had a similar experience, had a positive test then lost it about 2 weeks later. I had started bleeding, rang the hospital who told me to go in and they'd test my bloods, they also did a pregnancy test which came back negative. Didn't occur to me to do one at home before going tbh. I have no advice other than let yourself grieve and talk to friends and family. My DH struggled to show his emotion in front of me as didn't want to upset me more but we talked a lot and it probably made us closer.
Be kind to yourself