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Did anyone have a glass of wine in their pregnancy? I did in my first pregnancy maybe a glass once or twice a week after 20'weeks but not at all in this pregnancy.

Curious what other people's view points are.

Apparently up to half of people drink some alcohol during pregnancy

www.health.harvard.edu/blog/study-no-connection-between-drinking-alcohol-early-in-pregnancy-and-birth-problems-201309106667

OP - you are not alone

Op doesnt seem interested at all in other peoples opinions despite asking for them and seems highly defensive. I dont have dcs but when i was pregnant i didnt drink as soon as i found out but my midwife said it didnt matter what i had drank before i found out i was preg as the placenta hadnt formed so no alcohol was going to the foetus in the early 6 weeks. Not sure if its true but it made sense but if im ever pregnant again i wont drink. Not worth the risks no matter how small.

No but I don't crave alcohol so can easily go without.
The 'everything has a risk' argument doesn't work because if you take away one or more risks then it's no longer a risk, which can only be a positive.

I had a glass when pregnant with ds2 on my wedding day. I am not a big drinker in general maybe a couple of times a year but I did want a small one on that day so had one.

I did drink occasionally during both pregnancies. A glass of fizz at weddings, the odd small glass of very good red wine if someone was opening a fancy bottle. I assessed the risk and personally I thought it was so small as to be negligible.

Risk perception is so individual. For example I wouldn't consider a csection unless I thought me or baby were going to die because I think the risk of affecting the baby's microbiome is too great (risk of future asthma/allergy etc). Whereas others don't mind that risk. But personally I have the same strong feelings about elective c sections as some of you do about alcohol. But I'd never say that in real life.

Each to their own I say. Everyone has to make their own decisions and live by them. It's not really anyone else's business.

@DailyDuckie Huge respect to you for putting your children's needs first. I say this as someone who drinks every single day when not pregnant, but has never touched a drop during any of my pregnancies.

Advice now is clear that abstaining is the only way to be safe so if I was pregnant now then I would follow that.

When I was pregnant the advice was different I remember my doctor telling me wine was actually beneficial for stress. Both children now grown up and had no behavioural or leaning difficulties. I didn't drink bottles of wine but had a small glass now and again.

It isn’t risk perception at all though.

Alcohol damages your baby- fact.

You’re not weighing up the risk of something that could potentially cause damage.
You’re drinking alcohol and being ignorant to it.

No although I actually think that probably the odd glass of wine is fine but they can’t exactly research it so they can’t say. In the first 16 weeks the smell turned my stomach and after that I was fairly used to it

Alcohol is a teratogen.

Drinking it, to the extent of one glass has been shown in research to have negative effects.

Drinking alcohol isn’t a risk of damage, it’s causing damage.

@PercypigsearI didn't say I disagree with your right to a choice, but at least own you're making a decision on behalf of your child. Whether you think it causes no damage, does them good, is probably fine or you're too sick in addiction to care, you aren't making a decision purely for yourself

Yeah. At least if you’re going to drink whilst pregnant be honest about the fact it does cause damage and isn’t good.
Instead of being ignorant to it.

It’s not an informed decision otherwise.

OP, do bear in mind that most of those that do will likely remain silent for fear of incurring righteous indignation and wailing and gnashing of teeth.

I've had about five glasses of re wine on five different occasions all past 20 weeks

I don't personally, mostly because a small glass would more likely wet my appetite than curb any craving. I wouldn't judge any women for doing it and certainly there doesn't seem to be any research which shows that small amounts has any negative impact on the baby. In fact I think it would be better if we all stopped judging each other generally and were just supportive.

Most people I know have had the odd drink here and there in pregnancy so I don't know where they are when you ask the q on mumsnet 😂

No I didn’t. Not worth the risk IMO.

I think that’s more to do with the ignorance instead of ownership of behaviour.

I couldn’t care less what other people do. So long as they’re not being ignorant about it.

@ SnoozyLou

Most people I know have had the odd drink here and there in pregnancy so I don't know where they are when you ask the q on mumsnet

Presumably, they're not on Mumsnet? Makes sense when you think about it. Many people hang out on the pregnancy boards of Mumsnet because they want to ask and answer questions about pregnancy, babies and parenting, likely because they're concerned about doing the wrong thing and want to check. People who are generally very relaxed about all things parenting are less likely to feel the need to join.

See.

I'd judge a bit. If you want a drink so badly you can't forgo it for the sake of your unborn child then you probably need help.

Couple of drinks before I found out - can only remember having a few sips of a spritzer - I had chronic sickness!

If you're drinking a bottle of wine, every night whilst pregnant or not, then you have a problem!
We put so much pressure on ourselves.

People who chose to have a glass of fizz or wine occasionally, is it because you can't resist? Or feel like you're missing out?

Genuine question I just wonder what the pull is.

In the last month of pregnancy, I really, really fancied one of those 275ml bottles of 2.7% Belgian Lager. As I'd been chucking my guts up for the previous 8 months, the novelty of actually wanting something meant I asked at the next appointment. I got told that in the great scheme of things, it wouldn't make any difference now DC was effectively full term - they used the example that I and the baby had been more at risk from the chickenpox I contracted mid trimester thank you selfish bitch in the school playground with your pox ridden offspring declaring it was just a normal childhood disease. So I had one on a Saturday evening for the next four weeks.

Immediately went off them again after giving birth.

@yogo neither. I drank for the same reasons I do now I'm not pregnant. Because I enjoy the odd glass. My understanding of the research I did was that the occasional glass wouldn't cause harm. So if I fancied it I had one. 🤷‍♀️

i didn't drink during first trimester however as I felt the risks were higher.