Miscarriage Aftermath

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Hi everyone just wanted some advice from people with similar situations I had a miscarriage 30th January stoped bleeding within a week but still showing pregnant on tests. I'm suffering from anxiety and cant seems to forget and move on I just want to be like how I was 4 weeks ago. I keep worrying about never having another baby and wondering what went wrong since my first pregnancy was perfectly normal.I really want to start trying again but cant figure out when to. But now I am obsessing some please give me advice to help n move on n take things slowly

Sorry for your loss.

Miscarriage is so common in the early weeks of pregnancy (80% of miscarriages happen in the first trimester) and it is almost always as a result of chromosomal issues, nothing that's wrong with you so no reason you can't have another healthy baby.

In terms of when to try again, physically, it's best to wait until you've had a period (so give it at least a month). Emotionally, it depends on how you feel.

It's not something that you can't just 'get over' and 'move on' from. It's a loss and you are allowed to grieve. Just know that this doesn't have any baring on future pregnancies. Best of luck, I hope you manage to conceive again quickly x

I'm so sorry for your loss . It takes around three weeks to get a negative hpt after a mc.

Hi there OP, first of all I'm sorry about your loss and that you are having to go through this incredibly sad experience. I had a miscarriage in October last year when I was 12 weeks pregnant. I didn't have a negative pregnancy test until 2 weeks after so it's possibly still too soon.

In terms of how you are feeling I would say to be easy on yourself as it's still very recent, initially I felt exactly like you do that I just had to be pregnant again and that would be the only way I'd ever feel better. As time went by this feeling went away and I started feeling a lot more normal. I still think about my loss multiple times a day and I feel like it's never far from my thoughts but I feel like I can think about it without getting upset.

My advice would be to go easy on yourself as your loss is still recent. Don't feel that you have to pretend that you feel fine. If you can take time off work or plan lots of things you enjoy that will give you things to look forward to and make you feel more like you. It's very difficult but try not to spend time thinking about what could have been as it will only cause more pain. Please know that in time it will get easier and the way you are feeling now won't last forever. I wish you all the best for the future x

So sorry for your loss and can identify with how you are feeling. Have you had any help or someone to talk to about what you've been through?

I miscarried at 11 weeks on 22nd Jan and was so utterly heartbroken about it. I was rushed off in an ambulance and had awful flashbacks to my time in A&E for days afterwards and couldn't sleep. I saw my GP a few days later as I had a few odd symptoms (night sweats, pains, headaches) and she reassured me this was entirely normal but signed me off work for a week. I joined a few chatboards and also had a good look around the Miscarriage Association website too - it's a very good website for so many reasons. I had to have an EPU scan ten days after the MC and that showed all was healthy although something still left but not of concern. It was hard but gave me a bit more closure and reassurance.

Do you have a good friend to talk to? Talking on chatboards can be really helpful too as nobody knows you and you can say how you really feel in a safe environment.

I'm very happy to chat on here if you need support. Sending a very big hug . Xx

Thank you so much I have friends and family but eventually I feel like someones gonna get annoyed with me for going on about it that's why I turned to here atleast people wont get fed up with me here going on about how down I feel n how badly I want it x

I started to miscarry on 12 Jan and had a negative test a week later. We started having sex again 2 weeks after the miscarriage. So I'm 4 weeks on from it starting today. No period yet. I also just wanted to get pregnant again right away and couldn't imagine how I'd cope if I didn't, but in the last week or so I feel it's more in perspective than previously and I can think longer term again. I would love if I got pregnant before getting another period but im holding off on testing until it's been 6-8 weeks post miscarriage if my period still hasn't shown up.

It doesn't help that my tracker app keeps asking me if I've forgotten to log my period! It's treated the time I was pregnant as a longer cycle so I don't have much faith in its prediction of fertile days.

I have decided that if I'm not pregnant again (ie if I get my period) I'm going to buy a Clearblue fertility monitor. Just having decided that lets me feel.more in control of the process again.

I have had two miscarriages, they are such a horrible experience. For me I found once I had a period again I started feeling much physically better. But mental health is hard and less predictable - after my first miscarriage it took me a few months to be okay, but after my recent one I felt mentally okay within a week or two. I think the anaemia after my first miscarriage may have contributed, once that was treated I had enough energy to start feeling better. After each miscarriage I have had completely healthy pregnancies. I think that knowledge that I could have a normal pregnancy helped me a lot after my most recent loss. Good luck, I hope you feel better soon.