So scared:(

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I'm just having one of them days where I'm worrying about anything and everything.
So I'm 21 weeks and I'm absolutely terrified about having a new born.
I'm the youngest of the family at 22, a couple of my friends have babies but I've never exactly had to look after one alone.
My partner is the youngest of his family and never even held a baby he's not actually the biggest fan of children. With either of us having an actual CLUE how on earth are we going to cope😩 I'm so so worried has anyone else ever had this situation?

I think we have mostly all been in this situation! The majority of new parents don’t have a great deal of experience with babies. I had none, I had never changed a nappy or fed a baby with a bottle or pushed a buggy.

Having said that, my sister was a nursery nurse and she said she felt clueless with her own.

Sorry, meant to add that you will be fine! Try not to worry

You're definitely not alone! I'm 35 and 21 weeks pregnant with my first baby and feel just as clueless.

Try not to worry, everyone is in the same boat with their first. Even if they have childcare experience, it's not the same as having your own.

Do you have a supportive family that you can speak to about your concerns and who will help you out?

Like your partner, I've never been a lover of kids either but I think having your own is completely different.

I think the first time mums that think they know everything have the biggest shock. Just take one day at a time and get to know your baby. You might feel an instant rush of love or you might feel like you have a tiny stranger but just do your best and you'll all be fine. Biggest tip is remembering babies cry and they won't come to any harm from it, just stay calm.

I think having no idea what to do is very common!

Familiarise yourself with the basics - safe sleep, feeding options and have some nappies, vests, sleep suits and cellular blankets and you’ll find your way! I still feel like I’m winging it but my son is doing well so hopefully I’m doing something right!

Any specific questions you have when baby is here you can always ask Mumsnet. You’ll be fine - enjoy your baby

Thank you so much all for your replies, really helps to know I'm not the only one to feel this way! I just feel like my friends who have had babies have babies in the family so they kinda have an idea where as me I don't have any!
I've booked onto som anti natal parenting classes to so hope this will be a big help to me as well!
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I feel like this and cried to my midwife the other day! I'm 25 weeks and due to start antenatal classes soon which she said would really help, especially the ones that focus on beyond the birth. Might be worth looking into these if you're worried 😊

I didn't have a clue about babies but to be honest I loved it going home from hospital and just getting on with it myself after all the fuss and visitors subsided. Trust your instincts; you'll be fine