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35 feeling old this time

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Avearage · 04/02/2020 02:01

So.... Wondered if any other mummy's out there feeling it this time I'm 35 this time and only 7 weeks I feel absolutely exhausted I actually don't think I've ever felt any of this in any of my last pregnancys...... And we are only 7 weeks .
Is this my age and the fact its been so long since my last.... Did I just forget it all before........ Is anyone else out there in the same boat...... Everyone Ive told is like oh wow 35 and 4th baby your brave....

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Hodge85 · 04/02/2020 06:02

I can't really add to this, I'm 34, 35 next month and pregnant with my first. I think you'll find there's a lot of women on here my age and older. I felt exhausted at 7 weeks but feel great now (21 weeks). Maybe you're just feeling it because of what people are saying

Shmithecat2 · 04/02/2020 06:07

Yeah, I was 40 when pregnant with my ds, and I was so tired in the first trimester I used to just sit and cry. I went away though. It's just a stage of pregnancy, not your age

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Avearage · 04/02/2020 06:16

I'm really hoping it goes away I hate feeling feeble lol

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Idolovechocolategimmygimmy · 04/02/2020 06:20

Hi there. I'm 38 and 23 weeks. My fatigue hasn't been quite as bad this time round (this is my second) but I do get physically tired quickly. I know what you mean, I feel old! I'm here if you need support. I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope with a baby and a 3 year old as I'll pretty much be doing it on my own. Eek!

fishonabicycle · 04/02/2020 06:24

I was 35 when I was pregnant - only time so I had nothing to compare it to. I do remember the first trimester being really tired (falling asleep on sofa etc). Fine after that though.

Happycow · 04/02/2020 06:39

I was 33 for my 1st and 37 for my 2nd... 1st trimester wiped me out both times to the point i was falling asleep pretty much standing up some days! It does pass though, i my case pretty much at 12wks to the day.

Just go with it - sleep when and where you can (ive been known to do 10mins in a car park etc!).

Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy

ballsdeep · 04/02/2020 06:40

Yep! I'm 36 and I have just had a baby and I felt so old all the way through . I don't do pregnancy well anyway but I felt like a 90 year olds

kitchendreams · 04/02/2020 07:01

I don’t get these threads. I honestly feel no older or different at 35 than I did at 28 or 30! It’s so depressing how a lot of posters on MN seem to consider 35 as ancient and past it

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Avearage · 04/02/2020 07:05

I'm so glad it's not just me being feeble, idolovechocolategimmygimmy...... Turn that 3yr old into your little helper, you will be surprised actually how much they want to do and actually are capable of. The age gap between my first two 15 months and my eldest was super into being helpful!! You've got this
I think the fact I work nights might be adding to it all as work off little sleep anyway to work around the kids and husband x

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Avearage · 04/02/2020 07:08

Kitchendreams that's super I wish I did!! All of my other pregnancy's have been a breeze literally no issues with tiredness birth etc........ I just feel it this time and how I wish I didn't!! I'm by no means feeble normally and to be fair I'm still plodding through now.... But its just how I feel I guess x

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Snoopy28x · 04/02/2020 07:18

waves me! Lol I'm 38 (39 in the summer) and on surprise baby #3. I found 2nd pregnancy tough, I had a lively 2 year old who didnt want to let me sit down.

This time round I've got a 3 year old, 6 month old and 7 weeks pregnant my little man doesn't really sleep well, so I'm already exhausted from 6 months of no sleep, now add pregnancy tiredness in. I feel about 80 plodding through the day lol

My mum feels bad for me because she had me and my sister in her early 20s, so said she doesn't know how I do it at this age haha xx

PracticallySpeaking · 04/02/2020 07:35

To be honest I felt exactly the same when pregnant at 27 as I do now at 33, i.e. absolutely awful in the first trimester (exhaustion and sickness) and then it got better. I don’t feel any older.

Wow I’m impressed you are coping with nights on top of pregnancy and other kids

Lilice · 04/02/2020 07:37

@Avearage I feel the same! I'm 36 and pregnant with third. Im 7 weeks and never felt so tired in my previous pregnancies. I dont know if it's an age thing, or just a fact that every pregnancy is different

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Avearage · 04/02/2020 08:18

It's nice to hear ladies that I'm not being a drama queen I will be glad to get to 12 weeks and tell those that matter so they don't just think I'm letting myself go!!

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mistermagpie · 04/02/2020 08:21

I found my last pregnancy really tiring, I was (still am) 39 and although my previous pregnancies were quite recent this one was much harder.

Baby is now 11 weeks and although I'm 'lack of sleep' tired, I am back to my usual self and nowhere near as drained as I was in pregnancy. You'll be fine but it is tough going, especially when you have other kids.

ParkheadParadise · 04/02/2020 08:32

I was 38 when I had Dd2. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 5mths. Had no symptoms.
I did feel old when 2 other mum's in the hospital were in my Dd1class at school.
Lack of sleep was a lot worse second time round.

soundsystem · 04/02/2020 08:37

I feel your pain! I had DC3 in September at 35, after having DC1 at 30 and DC2 at 32.

I bounced through my other pregnancies - working full-time until 38 weeks, exercise classes 3 times a week, having a social life - but my 3rd was exhausting! I just felt knackered and achy the whole time, and didn't even get the second trimester relief

I'm not sure if that's down to being older or due to the fact I already had two small children, though!

Get some rest when you can, and good luck!

Emmacb82 · 04/02/2020 08:40

I think I’m actually the opposite!! I was 34 last time round and I’m 38 this time. Have had such an easy pregnancy this time round! Yes I’m tired because I work night shifts and have a 3 year old, but I’m not much more tired than I usually am! Just enjoying it I suppose as it’s probably the last one and it took us a long time to conceive.

fool11 · 04/02/2020 12:27

I was 40 when i had my first child, and was really tired first 5months (could barely eat which didn't help as well), now 45 and 15w pregnant with second (ivf)..working full time, long hours, not sleeping much...it's not easy, i don't have 5min for myself but it's ok...you just do what you have to do...wish you all the best..

LittleBoyJuly2020 · 04/02/2020 12:48

I'm 37 and 15 weeks pregnant, I had my first and only child 20 years ago but to be honest, I don't feel any more tired this time around. Although my thyroid is a little overactive right now so that's probably helping!
Now that I'm not dealing with the nausea everything is starting to feel better.
Walking my dogs for 2 hours a day right now but not sure how long I'll keep that up for!

Crazybunnylady123 · 05/02/2020 14:34

I had my first at 32/33 and I’m pregnant with my second at 35. Then I’m all done. That’s the way I wanted it. I would say this pregnancy so far has been a bit harder on me, I have been much sicker in the first trimester and much more tired now I’m into my second trimester. I don’t consider myself old at all, for my it’s about right.

samjacklogi88 · 05/02/2020 15:03

I'm 31 and I'm really struggling with this pregnancy I was 28 when I had my first baby I think it depends on pregnancy and not necessarily your age the early stages are the hardest hope you feel better

snowone · 05/02/2020 15:20

I was 32 with DC1 and breezed it! 37 with DC2 and it was all an absolute drag.....there will be no DC3 I definitely felt much older second time round.

bluemoon2468 · 05/02/2020 15:25

I mean I'm only 27 and feeling exhausted to my very bones 😞

PrinnyPree · 05/02/2020 17:22

I'm 37 and pregnant with my first (24+4) and completely shattered, especially at work, I work F/T 10am - 6:30pm and the last couple of hours of the working day are like pushing a boulder up a hill even though it's a desk job. I'm down to work till week 38 and I really am worried how I'm going to manage to function after another 13 weeks. I hope the third trimester is kinder! lol

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