When did/will you tell work?

[MotherAughra]

I'm considering when I need to tell work and considering telling my line manager at least sooner rather than later..

For context:
I am 6 weeks today, we found out three days before my missed period so times already dragging

I had 8 months of all bloody day sickness with DD, which has now kicked in for this pregnancy

I have history of miscarriage, anxiety and depression.
A significant amount of the department is signed off with stress so the work load is huge and fatigue is majorly kicking my butt while also running around after a two year old half the week!

I told my previous workplace early out of necessity because we had an ectopic scare and I had to go to A&E

We should have flexible working so if my workload continues as it is I can manage it and work from home, there is one member of staff who hates others working from home but if my line manager knows they can have my back should this person pipe up.

I have an early scan on the 14th, should i tell them if everything is okay then? I also worry I should tell them now incase it's bad news at the scan, but I think that's the anxiety talking

I told my boss very early on (round about 6 weeks) but I had a lot of early appointments and a bleed requiring early scans. It meant I didn't have any problems with taking time off for these appointments and I guess they could start to plan. I probably would have told her early ish anyway but I guess it depends on the relationship you have with your boss and whether things might be more difficult if they know. Good luck with the early scan

I told my boss very early before I knew it was viable due to recurrent miscarriages & I was in a lot of pain.
My job does involve heavy lifting which obviously I could no longer do.

Do whatever you need for the health of you and your baby. They should keep it strictly confidential from the others.

I told my boss at around 8 weeks, mainly because I was getting horrendous all-day sickness and people would have noticed anyway.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Yes I think I would wait until your scan on 14th. I have an early scan on 15th - can't wait. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow.
I plan on telling work at 12 weeks. Your situation is a bit different to me. I hope they are understandable and you are able to work from home when you need to - and I hope this 'busy body' that may have a problem with it doesn't get involved!
I would weigh up pro's and cons of telling them or keeping it a secret for however much longer x

I'm telling my boss tomorrow at nearly 13 weeks, but it's been easy for me to take time off for appointments due to flexible working and no one would even notice. I'm head of a team and not planning to tell my team though for a few weeks yet as it still feels very early. Just telling the bosses to give them plenty of warning to plan to cover my job.
Do whatever feels right, I only haven't as had no need to. I would've definitely told them earlier if I had to be in the office every day.

Thanks all, I think I'll see how I go this week and judge it from there, but I suspect I will end up telling them soon.

I suppose I want to tell my family first but DH and I had previously agreed to wait until after the early scan to tell them so I'm a bit stuck

I told my boss today as I'm 8 weeks and have been off work 2 days last week with chronic sickness (that doesn't seem to want to relent) and I'm concerned that I may need support with keeping my year 11s on track (I'm a secondary school teacher) if I continue to be off / not be able to provide the additional intervention sessions I've been delivering. He was reply was odd "but how do you know until you've had a scan?!" "you've jot actually got any proof yet"... I told him about the BFP but apparently that's not quite enough evidence for him yet. Odd man.

@newlymarried2019 that's such a weird response odd man

9 weeks - the smell of the food in the canteen made me feel ill!

I'm only 5 weeks and I've just told my line manager. I'm feeling very sick and knew I would need some time off, and couldn't be bothered to lie about it for months including lying about appointments. I knew she would be supportive, and tbh if i had a miscarriage I would likely need to tell her anyway, so what's the point in not saying now?

I told my boss as soon as I found out I was pregnant but purely because my job has high risks and there's a lot of things I now need to avoid.

17/18 weeks.

Was lucky had no need to tell earlier.

I told my boss a couple of weeks ago at 24 weeks. I would wait until after the 12 week scan/ screening tests but it is personal preference. Congratulations!

Congratulations! I told mine when I was about 6 weeks, I had been late a few times due to sickness so wanted to be honest. I'm glad I did because theyve been so supportive

6 weeks we had miscarried in May at 6.5 weeks. I was starting to feel very sick and as a police officer I'm not allowed to be front line so have to tell them! Now 25 weeks and counting down till Mat leave!

I found out 6 days before my period was missed, I told my boss that day, I work with equipment that I shouldn’t be around in pregnancy. Trying to keep it secret from the team I work with till after the 12 week scan.

I didn't tell my boss until I was 18 weeks and only did that because I was coming back from a client meeting and started bleeding heavily and was admitted into hospital. I didn't feel work would be very supportive so didn't want them to know until I was sure there was actually going to be a baby - but because I was admitted and needed the time off, I told them.

I'm not telling my boss until 4 months because I need them to extend my contract and they are unlikely to do that if they know I'm pregnant.

7 weeks due to sickness

All 3 times I told work early on, just my immediate boss and line manager.

I wanted them to be aware and know why I needed time off etc.

Also! My GP a happy to sign me off for two weeks as 'fatigue under investigation'. He gave me the note but I've not used it.

Admittedly not a protected absence as not explicitly pregnancy but maybe more acceptable than being signed off as stressed.

I told my last boss at 8 weeks because he was demanding to know what was 'up'. He then immediately put me on performance review. I miscarried a week later.

By acceptable I just mean a lot of her colleagues are signed off as stressed right now so she may not feel comfortable doing the same. Just want to be clear!

I need to tell mine in the next couple of weeks (19-21 ish) as I'm afraid I'm going to start showing and they'll guess first 🙄

I'm dreading it as don't want everyone up in my business! Especially the nosy old man contingent which is about 50% of my office 😖 I will ask my direct manager to ask his manager to keep it confidential but he (the top manager) is a horrible gossip so I will lose control of it the second he finds out. He has to know for cover/ planning purposes.

Also my direct manager is also a bloke in his 50s without kids who cannot handle any sort of interpersonal/ personal conversation, he's not horrible just very awkward, so looking forward to that conversation 🙄

I'm waiting to sign a new contract at work, so holding off telling work until it's signed! I'm 15+1. I'm dreading telling my boss to be honest - he gives me a hard time at the best of times.

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